The Human Manure Spreader is the man or woman who takes their bitterness and anger out on other human beings in the same way a manure spreader indiscriminately spreads its fecal matter.
These people sling their human “crapital” all over those in their lives, except for those whose rears they have to kiss lest they lose a job or something else very important to them. They have virtually no boundaries, physically or emotionally.
These people are narcissists and wreak havoc on those around them. They don’t listen, they’re extremely opinionated, they’re rude (no manners), talk about themselves nonstop, and don’t have a caring, nurturing bone in their body.
The dominant trait for the HMS is their critical nature— they cut people people down for sport. They get a thrill out of criticizing and demeaning others.
They are never wrong, and when their ego is threatened by any amount of criticism they will aim to destroy him or her. If you look up “ruthless” in the dictionary, there’s the HMS‘s picture right beside it.
Dealing with an HMS is impossible in most situations because he or she cannot negotiate or compromise. If they do, they strike a deal wherein they still benefit more than you. Compromising isn’t something that will happen, and this is because of their deep lacking of empathy. Having a heart and seeing the other person’s point of view is simply not something they have.
An HMS doesn’t know, and doesn’t care, how he or she comes across to others. If they did they would adjust their behaviors like most normal human beings do. So to deal with them put on your emotional armor, a teflon coat if you will, and don’t allow yourself to be brought down to their juvenile level. They are emotionally stunted, so knowing this should help you realize you can’t ever change them or win them over.
[Consult with a family law attorney in your state; I am not a licensed attorney]
If you’re an airline pilot, don’t settle for a Standard Possession Order or another state-created template used to make the job of those in the family courts easier. With your schedule that changes month to month, it’s important for you and your attorney to demand an airline pilot possession order, an airline employee possession order, or variable possession order (its name depends on the state you’re in).
In the below video, I outline the basics. Consult a family law attorney in your state for details, but in general here is what an airline pilot possession order is:
“If teaching a child to despise his or her own parent isn’t child abuse, what is?” – BrainwashingChildren.com
“There is no question that parental alienation is a form of child abuse. It is a horror show. The damage to children is enormous. When a child loses a parent, they are killing off a part of themselves because there is an identity between the child and both parents. The result is that they become self-injurious. I see all the warning signs and all the flags of the self-hatred: nightmares, anxiety, oppositional behaviors in school, presence of gastrointestinal syndromes, failing school grades, more susceptibility to peers with oppositional behaviors, juvenile delinquency, substance abuse, and depression” – Dr. Raymond Havlicek
Here’s a stellar example of two divorced parents handling an exchange. Parents have an obligation to act this way.
It’s remarkable to look at the general lack of compassion in those parents willing to attack their own son or daughter’s relationship with an ex. And it’s not only a lack of compassion in dealing with their own child’s emotional well-being. These high level brainwashers (read more here) can be downright vicious, callous, and cold-blooded towards anyone they decide has wronged them. Not just an ex.
When I look at the adults that have alienated children against their own parent, I see people who have a very dark side. They are perfectly capable of coming across as nice and sweet as the social situation dictates, but if they feel like they are a victim in a relationship, friendship, or business partnership, they will lash out with vengeance that would make your head spin. They are highly toxic when they feel they have been “screwed over.” They are pulling a manure spreader, so to speak, behind them… spraying their outbursts and negativity to everyone in their orb.
The inability to show compassion– especially towards their own children– is the hallmark of the worst brainwashers. They also have a deep victim mentality… and the damage that they can do to children is quite substantial.