Comments on: The Brainwashing Boomerang

By: dee

dee — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 15:35:57 +0000

this has happened to me. my ex has successfully alienated my 19 yo, my 21 yo only calls when she wants something and since my 11 yo went to live with him 3 months ago I have seen him less than half a dozen times. Yet my 13 daughter seems to want nothing to do with her father and has told me she feels pressure when she goes for her visits to his house. Thank God she is not vulnerable to his brainwashing. We had court last week and afterwords my ex made the 11 yo say hi to his aunt he hasn’t seen in several years yet he didn’t even say “boo” to our 13 yo who was sitting right next to their aunt. nor did he make our son say hi to me. he told our son from the first weekend he went to live with his dad that visitation with me was optional and it has been downhill ever since. Right now they are trying to say my current husband abused my 11 yo and that’s why he won’t come over. I could not belive the lies coming out of my son’s mouth that day in front of the judge. and the judge believed him! The procedure is being continued and now I think I must file charges against my ex for psych abuse but not sure if it will fly in this area I live in.

By: Jes

Jes — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 21:16:41 +0000

Well, we as outsiders can only hear your side of the story and therefore cannot make a proper suggestion; can we? I don’t think putting your side out on the net and asking for vindication is the proper course of action. I suggest confronting the dad when the child is not around and attempting to speak like grown-ups and resolve the issue. If a third-party intervention is needed, I suggest using a family therapist who is practiced in dealing with these types issues. For the sake of the child, do not involve or confront the child or confront in front of the child unless you want them to be seriously mentally screwed.

By: satellite p

satellite p — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:55:37 +0000

my soon to be ex son in law has made my 5 yr old grandbaby PROMISE never to kiss me again. This after I caught said person in the act – breaking into the computer in our house. That was three months ago. Child told me accidentally one day that Daddy had extracted this promise and ‘we can’t break a promise can we?’
The newest is that Daddy has forbidden baby to accompany me alone anywhere – ‘you can go if Mama and Grampy go’ but not alone to the park or any places where we used to have fun.
How do you handle this contemptible behavior. I think this is child abuse at it’s most vile.

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