Brainwashing Tool #3: No pics of you anywhere
Posted on 01. Oct, 2008 by admin in Brainwashing, Combating, Exposing the methods
Your ex has many tools at his or her disposal to push you away from and out of your child’s life.
One of the small but telling ways is to deny any pictures of you in your kid’s room at your ex’s. Why would they do this?
Simple. “Out of sight; out of mind.”
Your ex is making a pointed attempt to keep the child from thinking of you. Looking at a picture instills warm feelings towards that person, but your ex does not want the child to feel these feelings towards you.
Think about how tragic this is. The parent is deliberately taking away a memory of the other parent from the child.
While it may seem on the surface like it’s not that big of a deal, it actually is. If your kid has other pics in his room (and you can be sure the other parent is in one or more of them), but you’re not in any of them, you can be sure your ex is up to this sad and subtle brainwashing technique.
Not allowing pics of you anywhere is ywr another tool for bitter ex’s to help pass their dislike or even hatred of you — despite your being one of the two top people of importance in their life– onto the child.
2 Responses to “Brainwashing Tool #3: No pics of you anywhere”
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Beverly Hollis
29. Jan, 2010
I am experiencing this with my grandchildren. His father is alienating his children from their mother. We have hundreds of witnesses of what a great mother she is but he has convinced the children she is nothing but a liar and isattempting to gain sole custody. He is the most evil person I have ever met. He is only attempting to destroy my daughter.
Mary Ann Coffman
05. Jul, 2010
I am having a similar problem. When I lived with my ex he refused to have a family picture taken, because it is unnecessary,” we all know what we look like?” The minute we separated he peppered the house with pictures of only him and the kids in frames that say things like ” Just us guys”, Daddy’s little girl, our family” But the only people in the pictures is he, my children and his mother and sister. He does the counseling thing of every week they must see a counselor. He never abides by the court visitation orders because the judge said we needed to be “mindful of our daughters wish’s” . And since he decides what her wishes are, she has never spent one minute of a holiday or birthday with me in over 2 years. Oh but we have joint custody legally and physically. How can it be joint? I really wish I had seen this site 2 years ago, I would not have made some of the mistakes, unfortunately I see where I have inadvertently done some of these things in frustration from being denied access and being belittled by ex.