I’m going to write an article on that topic. Thanks for bringing this up. In fact, an ex can do ZERO brainwashing, but enlist his siblings, parents, and friends in the war against you.

To answer your question: You need to contact a child therapist that utilizes “play therapy.” When you interview him or her, ask them if they’re familiar with PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). If you connect personally with them and they’ve treated brainwashed children, then you’re set.

I can’t give you legal advise, but I can tell you to start documenting your child’s words and actions. I use a Flip Mino video camera and an audio recorder (brand eludes me). Then, when you have some convincing evidence, having your lawyer call a hearing in front of the judge in your case.

Anetra, go out and by a small video camera like the Flip Mino. I’ve used it during exchanges where my son is crying because he doesn’t want to see me, and during talks with him where I’m asking him why he doesn’t want to be with me at all anymore. This footage will come in handy when played in front of a judge or jury. It’s helped my case immensely.

Also start keeping a log on all the weird statements from your children and your ex. Over years you’ll forget what they said, and that’s not good if somebody goes for custody change or modification of the decree.

Read what I wrote in the reply above, most of that can apply to you as well.

I feel your pain, I really do. Just DO THE RIGHT THING (unlike your ex), hang in there, and never give up on this battle.

1. Buy a small video camera (like the Flip Mino) and start videotaping your exchanges and your son’s moments of fear.

2. Calmly respond to his fears, telling him there’s no monsters or bad people in your home.

3. Find a child therapist who deals with “play therapy” and who’s familiar with Parental Alienation Syndrome. Place your child with the professional immediately, or modify your decree if it’s a right denied the non-custodial parent (as it is in my case).

Above all, stay the course. Don’t give up. Don’t start getting emotional around him like your ex is doing. DO THE OPPOSITE: Calm, understanding, and explain to your son how he needn’t be afraid when he goes through his outbursts.

Finally, keep a log of all the weird comments your son makes. This will be helpful when you go to court and need to remember the things he said (even though it will be considered “hearsay,” it still is good for documenting the abuse for a professional therapist). I’m going to make a post on that issue here soon.

Check back with me here and let me know how it goes. Thanks for sharing.