The day of the party, my ex-husband dropped his girlfriend off, alone, at our home with my 12 year old son. I introduced her to everyone and after getting to know her a bit, everyone seemed to really enjoy her company and be having a good time. I offered her a glass of wine, after which, she proceeded to finish off the entire bottle by herself. She also consumed a couple of tequila shots and so after was very intoxicated. She began hanging all over my husband, making sexual gestures toward him and spilling wine all over our kitchen floor. At one point she even licked my husband’s ex-wife’s arm as she was holding a bag for her to throw up in on the couch.

My 12 year old son asked me if his father was coming to the party and I told him no. I had called him during the party to assure him that it was fine to come over. I also felt bad for his girlfriend, who was sort of thrown into the lion’s den not knowing anyone at the party. He declined my invitation. My son ended up calling him to come pick the two of them up because he was embarassed by her behavior.

I asked if she was like this often and his reply that she was, sometimes. When my ex-husband arrived, I headed him off at the pass because I didn’t want any more commotion in my home full of people. I asked him to not be angry with her, that she was just having a good time and assured him that everyone was enjoying her company. I didn’t want to make any trouble for her. I had already made up my mind that I was not going to invite them to any more of our functions and that was good enough for me. My ex -husband was clearly angry and embarassed, however, he didn’t go inside to get her. He left my two older children to carry her out to his van.

I texted him later on that evening to make sure she was ok and he said that she was sleeping but, ok. Shortly after the party, I stopped all communication with his girlfriend. A few weeks later I received both an email and a letter in the mail from my ex-husband’s girlfriend accusing my husband and I of plotting to invite her to our home to deliberately get her drunk and take incriminating pictures of her. I almost fell on the floor!

Ever since the party, my life has been a living hell. There were several letters, after the first, harassing me about everything from the hour I would be allowed to pick my son up from my ex-husband’s home to denying him a copy of my son’s insurance card. Every couple of days I would receive a letter until I, finally, went to my local police station and filed a complaint.

I have filed a modification of my divorce decree with our court system. My son’s educational needs are not being met. Homework is never completed while at his father’s home and he is absent on a regular basis. He has been absent 4 times since September 1 while at his dad’s home and always when there is work due. Since my son spends 3 out of 5 days of the school week with his dad, I am forced to cram all the work he has to make up in addition to his current assignments into one day to be ready for Monday.

My son is enrolled in gymnastics and his dad refuses to take him to practice. He was asked to join the competing team this year and it is costing me a lot of money that my ex-husband refuses to help me pay. It was under the suggestion of a couple of therapists that we enroll him in a recreational activity to help with the possible depression and low self esteem he was feeling since the divorce.

My son is becoming increasingly mouthy and disrespectful toward me. It is a constant battle to get school work done and I am sure he feels like that is all we do in our home but, it is because none of it gets done at his dad’s. He gives me a hard time about going to gymnastics every week. He says he doesn’t want to do that or anything else. There are no more hugs and the smiles are getting fewer and farther between also.

My ex-husband and his girlfriend have allowed my son to read the explanations I had attached to the motion to modify that I had served him with. Now, my son thinks I am a liar and doesn’t believe anything I say. His respect for me is decreasing rapidly evertime I see him. It is heartbreaking. I don’t know exactly what gets said to him while he is over there. There is no way for me to find out. He carries his cell phone with him constantly while in our home and is in constant contact with my ex and his girlfriend.

We are going to court this Thursday. I am very nervous with all these accusations and the school is showing very limited involvement. I know this was a very long story.