“Only 40 hours ’til I see you”

Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin in Brainwashing, Exposing the methods, Visitation

Counting down the hoursParents who view visitation with the other parent as something that’s a necessary evil often count down not only the days in front of their child, but hours too.

If a parent says to the child “Honey, I miss you so much, only 40 hours until I see you,” what is that telling them?

First, it tells them that there’s a mental clock counting town the time until “freedom” occurs. Until the misery of having to be with the other parent is over. It’s simply not healthy for parents to use such countdowns.

My son’s mother does this. Just yesterday it was “40 hours.” Not 2 days, mind you. 40 hours.

What she should be doing is asking him what he’s doing, to support those things, and then say “have a blast tomorrow, I’ll talk to you then.” Period.

So if your child mentions “only 35 hours until I see Mom,” you know what’s going on the the parent’s mind.

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2 Responses to ““Only 40 hours ’til I see you””

  1. blogger m

    22. Feb, 2010

    Wow, this is so creepy. I thought my huband’s ex is the only one doing this to the kids. Unfortunately , it seems like it’s happening to more and more kids. Too bad the mother’s just can’t support the children’s time with their fathers.

  2. vero

    01. Apr, 2010

    This is not a gender specific issue. FATHERS do this as much as mothers, believe me I am on the receiving end of it. He left us, I raised my daughter by myself, I always pushed visitation, he wasn’t really interested, cancelled most of the time, brought her back early etc. Now that she’s a teen, he decided to keep her after a summer visit when she was almost 17. Told her she would never have to see me again at 18 and be under my “rules” And his campaign of hate against me has cost me my relationship with the daughter I raised by myself!!

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