http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/2009/01/brainwashing-technique-4-transferring-hurt-feelings-and-frustrations-onto-a-child/ Exposing and combating parental alienation and mental child abuse Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:27:39 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/2009/01/brainwashing-technique-4-transferring-hurt-feelings-and-frustrations-onto-a-child/comment-page-1/#comment-292 amethyst777 Mon, 30 May 2011 09:38:53 +0000 http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/?p=20#comment-292 NONE of this matters one bit if you don't have any money for a lawyer! I feel so hopeless there is nothing I can do except watch the harm done to my children. Any advice is helpful. NONE of this matters one bit if you don’t have any money for a lawyer! I feel so hopeless there is nothing I can do except watch the harm done to my children. Any advice is helpful.

]]> http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/2009/01/brainwashing-technique-4-transferring-hurt-feelings-and-frustrations-onto-a-child/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Fran Pike Sun, 29 May 2011 19:19:07 +0000 http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/?p=20#comment-291 I want to know how to stop this. I am so broken hearted to know what my grandchildren are going through this horrible horrendous abuse! I have tried to have an investigation done, but the RCMP says there is no abuse, an unqualified detective did the investigation. My lawyer sent back the retainer fee, after holding it for 4 months, saying that she had to busy a case load. I don't have any money, what can I do?? I want to know how to stop this. I am so broken hearted to know what my grandchildren are going through this horrible horrendous abuse! I have tried to have an investigation done, but the RCMP says there is no abuse, an unqualified detective did the investigation. My lawyer sent back the retainer fee, after holding it for 4 months, saying that she had to busy a case load. I don’t have any money, what can I do??

]]> http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/2009/01/brainwashing-technique-4-transferring-hurt-feelings-and-frustrations-onto-a-child/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Leslie Tue, 28 Jul 2009 23:56:33 +0000 http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/?p=20#comment-71 I am going through this. I keep my mouth shut about my ex at all costs. I never ever say a negative about their father in front of them or even where I am afraid they may hear me. I often leave it for when they are not even around. But him and his family on the other hand have nothing but negative things to say about me. I was the one wronged, cheated on the entire time from before we were married until I finally left 5 1/2 yrs later. I finally got sick of being a fool for staying and so I left. Now I am the one who is being bashed to our small sons and it has been going on since they were 3 and 5, they are now 6 and 8. I have to watch them leave every summer only to get them back and they hate me and have all of these horrible things to say to me that their dad or grandmother has said. I've confronted them both and they deny it, they call the boys liars in not so many words. I keep my mouth shut because I do not see it as my place to tell them how I feel about him, it has nothing to do with them. I try my hardest to be a great mom and most times I feel like I am. I am a struggling student and single mom about to graduate only to have my ex tell my children that I am a loser and a liar and I steal money from him. That we are poor because I am too lazy to work, that I am not really going to school for anything, just wasting money and time. That I use all of their child support on myself and not them because I don't buy them toys or new clothes every chance I get. Nothing I do is good enough for him, not that I ever thought it would be and not that I care, but he does put these horrible things into my childrens minds and make them question who I really am. Because they want to love us both and they want to believe us both. I am just so lost and have no idea what to do anymore. In a few weeks I will have to reprogram my children after 5 weeks with their dad. I am so scared that one day, I won't be able to do it, that they will never believe in me because of his lies. I am a scared and lost momma, ho loves her children with every fiber of her being, yet I have to battle with my ex to prove it to my children. It is not fair at all. I am going through this. I keep my mouth shut about my ex at all costs. I never ever say a negative about their father in front of them or even where I am afraid they may hear me. I often leave it for when they are not even around. But him and his family on the other hand have nothing but negative things to say about me. I was the one wronged, cheated on the entire time from before we were married until I finally left 5 1/2 yrs later. I finally got sick of being a fool for staying and so I left. Now I am the one who is being bashed to our small sons and it has been going on since they were 3 and 5, they are now 6 and 8. I have to watch them leave every summer only to get them back and they hate me and have all of these horrible things to say to me that their dad or grandmother has said. I’ve confronted them both and they deny it, they call the boys liars in not so many words. I keep my mouth shut because I do not see it as my place to tell them how I feel about him, it has nothing to do with them. I try my hardest to be a great mom and most times I feel like I am. I am a struggling student and single mom about to graduate only to have my ex tell my children that I am a loser and a liar and I steal money from him. That we are poor because I am too lazy to work, that I am not really going to school for anything, just wasting money and time. That I use all of their child support on myself and not them because I don’t buy them toys or new clothes every chance I get. Nothing I do is good enough for him, not that I ever thought it would be and not that I care, but he does put these horrible things into my childrens minds and make them question who I really am. Because they want to love us both and they want to believe us both. I am just so lost and have no idea what to do anymore. In a few weeks I will have to reprogram my children after 5 weeks with their dad. I am so scared that one day, I won’t be able to do it, that they will never believe in me because of his lies. I am a scared and lost momma, ho loves her children with every fiber of her being, yet I have to battle with my ex to prove it to my children. It is not fair at all.

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