Dr. Phil’s show on Brainwashing of Children

Posted on 10. Jun, 2009 by admin in Brainwashing, Exposing the methods

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Dr. Phil McGraw

A few months ago I watched with interest an episode of Dr. Phil that dealt with the topic of brainwashing of children by a parent. Dr. Phil summarized the bad parental behavior that hurts children, and I jotted down the main points he made. Here they are:

  • Using child as pawn
  • Talking bad about the other parent
  • Using child to gain information
  • Transferring hurt feelings and frustrations onto the child
  • Treating the child like an adult

All of them are great points. In my case every single one of them are being done. How about you? It’s my guess that a parent that you see deploying at least two of these actions is likely to be doing all five.

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6 Responses to “Dr. Phil’s show on Brainwashing of Children”

  1. Bonnie Murfet

    04. Aug, 2009

    Its great to see the Dr Phil recognizes the traits of unhealthy manipulative and abusive parenting. I am amazed however that the alienators don’t seem to realize that all their efforts will back fire because they are actually saying “I don’t want my child to have any part of my ex”. This negative self talk will actually be self fulfilling prophecy for them when the child realizes what the alienating parent/family has done and they will be the ones who are rejected.

  2. Linda

    08. Aug, 2009

    Hello,

    My children are being brainwash by their father and grandmother. He received a call from his family regarding the passing of his father (biological dad). He did not waste anytime getting out to Texas. The day he received the message, is the day he left with his children. I was completely surprised by this. I am constantly left out of their family get together. I am sitting at home right now while they are out fishing. My daughter dislikes fishing, but because of her recent visit to Texas she refuses to spend time with me. She speaks down and looks down at me. I am in the process sof moving out of the house because I refused to be disrespected in such a way. I raised these children with no help from anyone. My children express their interest in moving to Texas to live near their grandmother, and to be near him. He has also decided to move to Texas to be near his mother. I have been completely taken out of the picture of my children lives. I have lost my communication skills on how to speak to my children. All I do is speak negative to them and their father. They have brainwash them against me and I don’t know how to repair it. My children only interest in living in Texas is because they are rich and well off. I am a diligent, disciplinary, and strong woman that has taken on the responsibility in raising these children with no help from anyone. Many times I have try to reach out to others for support, but always change my mind. I am not rich, pretty, or smart, but I know when I am not wanted. My chidren are leaving this week (Wednesday) this is the last time I will see them. They have decided along with their father and grandmother to attend four years of high school in Texas. I had no part in these decisions. I have an eighteen year old that decided he wants to stay with me. This family will never be the same. I will never see or trust anyone again. My heart is breaking everyday. If you are able to read this Dr. Phil, please help me. I have live with anger for so many years. Now I am dealing with this new situation which is the ultimate betrayal of people I never thought would hurt me (husband and children)

  3. Trish

    22. Sep, 2009

    Go to counseling… You are depressed and in no shape to be of any help for your children. Get the help you need and gain the strength to take back your children and your life. I don’t believe money is a real issue…kids want their parents time…and I know that because I survive on 400 dollars a month with 3 children at home and my children want to be with me more than their father because I am kind, loving, silly and I discipline them but I do so with respect. It is a fight I wake up and have to deal with everyday. Some days are easier than others.There are places in every city that offer free counseling, free medication if necessary…There are so many resources in the communities and all you have to do is utilize them.The only way to help your children is to help yourself by building your strength up…Like the phoenix…You need to rise up from the ashes of your past and fight (not fist fight) for the future that you want because nobody is going to hand you a happy life on a platter. So quit being the victim and stand on your feet…believe me…its worth fighting for…A mothers rewards are only rewarded when our children have grown and they gain more experience with life. Its hard for them to understand and see things the way that we do because they don’t have the experience and wisdom that we have by having been there before them. You could say it is their right of passage to have their own experiences just as it was ours when we were their age. I wish you the best of luck and know that there is a total stranger who is wishing you every bit of happiness you can grab during your lifetime….Now get to it…Your liife and your children await you.

  4. satellite p

    10. Nov, 2009

    Wish i had seen that show. I don’t know how to protect my grand from the dispicable stuff that’s being fed to him by my soon to be ex son in law who is still – after 11 months – thinking there’s going to be a reconciliation. Daughter and grand moved in to regain some strength and he’s attacking her the only way he knows how – thru a 5 year old!! There should be a law. Emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse. For better or worse child tells us about the ‘promises’ he has to make to ‘DADDY’ God give us strength. The man is vile to abuse a child for his own gain.

  5. Joanne Kontic

    25. Dec, 2009

    Hi Linda!
    I know exactly how you feel… I feel I am in the same boat as you are. I live in Northern California and have been married to my husband for 13 yrs. I got two children ages 8 and 12 years old. I feel half of America deals with the same situation because of the economy. I have Lupus Sle for the past five yrs and my husband was in a big company layoff last yr after making a six figure salary we are now trying to save every penny just for rent and food. I am working part time one hour a day and my husband is jealous of me that I even have a job with my medical condition that I work for the past four yrs. Everything is in competition with him. Who is the better parent. I went to college and earned a certificate for child care while I was in the hospital too one yr to complete my schooling and I feel that in some way instead of support I feel there is jealousy because I am a fighter and want to get stronger because of my lupus and I am left alone in the end. we had a house and now we had to sell it last yr because of my husbands work and move closer to my moms house since I have my medical condition. My husband hates it where we live too. I have connections with ballroom dancing , church and the YMCA. I feel every time I try to make myself feel stronger and better I feel put down by everyone and get no support from the family. I need support with the lupus too. So I know how you feel all alone. And being blamed for everything. When you try your best.
    Have a happy new year and try to make connections outside your home so you are not lonely. Friends also count. Even though you have problems at home and try to make it perfect.
    Joanne Kontic

  6. Beverly Hollis

    29. Jan, 2010

    Please my daughter is experiencing all of the above..He has cheated on her from day one (she has proof of this) and now that she has decided to divorce him, he is telling the children that she has been the one doing all this (which is far from the truth). He is the most controling person I have ever met in my 67 years, also liar, cheater, no morals, values; but he is brainwashing his 11, 9, and 6 year old telling them that my daughter and whole family are not worthy of them.

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