Brainwashing Children

13 Responses to “Dr. Phil’s show on Brainwashing of Children”

1. 

   Bonnie Murfet
   

   04. Aug, 2009

   Its great to see the Dr Phil recognizes the traits of unhealthy manipulative and abusive parenting. I am amazed however that the alienators don’t seem to realize that all their efforts will back fire because they are actually saying “I don’t want my child to have any part of my ex”. This negative self talk will actually be self fulfilling prophecy for them when the child realizes what the alienating parent/family has done and they will be the ones who are rejected.
2. 

   Linda
   

   08. Aug, 2009

   Hello,

   My children are being brainwash by their father and grandmother. He received a call from his family regarding the passing of his father (biological dad). He did not waste anytime getting out to Texas. The day he received the message, is the day he left with his children. I was completely surprised by this. I am constantly left out of their family get together. I am sitting at home right now while they are out fishing. My daughter dislikes fishing, but because of her recent visit to Texas she refuses to spend time with me. She speaks down and looks down at me. I am in the process sof moving out of the house because I refused to be disrespected in such a way. I raised these children with no help from anyone. My children express their interest in moving to Texas to live near their grandmother, and to be near him. He has also decided to move to Texas to be near his mother. I have been completely taken out of the picture of my children lives. I have lost my communication skills on how to speak to my children. All I do is speak negative to them and their father. They have brainwash them against me and I don’t know how to repair it. My children only interest in living in Texas is because they are rich and well off. I am a diligent, disciplinary, and strong woman that has taken on the responsibility in raising these children with no help from anyone. Many times I have try to reach out to others for support, but always change my mind. I am not rich, pretty, or smart, but I know when I am not wanted. My chidren are leaving this week (Wednesday) this is the last time I will see them. They have decided along with their father and grandmother to attend four years of high school in Texas. I had no part in these decisions. I have an eighteen year old that decided he wants to stay with me. This family will never be the same. I will never see or trust anyone again. My heart is breaking everyday. If you are able to read this Dr. Phil, please help me. I have live with anger for so many years. Now I am dealing with this new situation which is the ultimate betrayal of people I never thought would hurt me (husband and children)
3. 

   Trish
   

   22. Sep, 2009

   Go to counseling… You are depressed and in no shape to be of any help for your children. Get the help you need and gain the strength to take back your children and your life. I don’t believe money is a real issue…kids want their parents time…and I know that because I survive on 400 dollars a month with 3 children at home and my children want to be with me more than their father because I am kind, loving, silly and I discipline them but I do so with respect. It is a fight I wake up and have to deal with everyday. Some days are easier than others.There are places in every city that offer free counseling, free medication if necessary…There are so many resources in the communities and all you have to do is utilize them.The only way to help your children is to help yourself by building your strength up…Like the phoenix…You need to rise up from the ashes of your past and fight (not fist fight) for the future that you want because nobody is going to hand you a happy life on a platter. So quit being the victim and stand on your feet…believe me…its worth fighting for…A mothers rewards are only rewarded when our children have grown and they gain more experience with life. Its hard for them to understand and see things the way that we do because they don’t have the experience and wisdom that we have by having been there before them. You could say it is their right of passage to have their own experiences just as it was ours when we were their age. I wish you the best of luck and know that there is a total stranger who is wishing you every bit of happiness you can grab during your lifetime….Now get to it…Your liife and your children await you.
4. 

   satellite p
   

   10. Nov, 2009

   Wish i had seen that show. I don’t know how to protect my grand from the dispicable stuff that’s being fed to him by my soon to be ex son in law who is still – after 11 months – thinking there’s going to be a reconciliation. Daughter and grand moved in to regain some strength and he’s attacking her the only way he knows how – thru a 5 year old!! There should be a law. Emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse. For better or worse child tells us about the ‘promises’ he has to make to ‘DADDY’ God give us strength. The man is vile to abuse a child for his own gain.
5. 

   Joanne Kontic
   

   25. Dec, 2009

   Hi Linda!
   I know exactly how you feel… I feel I am in the same boat as you are. I live in Northern California and have been married to my husband for 13 yrs. I got two children ages 8 and 12 years old. I feel half of America deals with the same situation because of the economy. I have Lupus Sle for the past five yrs and my husband was in a big company layoff last yr after making a six figure salary we are now trying to save every penny just for rent and food. I am working part time one hour a day and my husband is jealous of me that I even have a job with my medical condition that I work for the past four yrs. Everything is in competition with him. Who is the better parent. I went to college and earned a certificate for child care while I was in the hospital too one yr to complete my schooling and I feel that in some way instead of support I feel there is jealousy because I am a fighter and want to get stronger because of my lupus and I am left alone in the end. we had a house and now we had to sell it last yr because of my husbands work and move closer to my moms house since I have my medical condition. My husband hates it where we live too. I have connections with ballroom dancing , church and the YMCA. I feel every time I try to make myself feel stronger and better I feel put down by everyone and get no support from the family. I need support with the lupus too. So I know how you feel all alone. And being blamed for everything. When you try your best.
   Have a happy new year and try to make connections outside your home so you are not lonely. Friends also count. Even though you have problems at home and try to make it perfect.
   Joanne Kontic
6. 

   Beverly Hollis
   

   29. Jan, 2010

   Please my daughter is experiencing all of the above..He has cheated on her from day one (she has proof of this) and now that she has decided to divorce him, he is telling the children that she has been the one doing all this (which is far from the truth). He is the most controling person I have ever met in my 67 years, also liar, cheater, no morals, values; but he is brainwashing his 11, 9, and 6 year old telling them that my daughter and whole family are not worthy of them.
7. 

   kim
   

   22. Mar, 2010

   My parents are siding with my ex. They hate my husband and have been telling my two year old not to call him dad like he has been for over a year. They say bad things about both of us in front of my son, have threatened me also. Yet, my ex says he is in control and is denying me my summer visitation. I am going to a lawyer to receive help.
8. 

   Tracy Schmucker
   

   30. Mar, 2010

   I have a now 5 year old daughter. Her bio dad wanted nothing to do with her and i know bcuz i tried to involve him and every attempt was shot down. So I left it alone. I was with a man named James thru my whole pregnancy whom id already had a 2 year old son with. The day Kira was born James was the first one 2 hold her and then i saw him drop tears of joy. She wasn’t his by blood but when i saw him look at her with adoration i realized she did have a daddy and it was jasons loss and james’ gain. In our eyes she was his baby girl. I got myself in a bind after a nasty divorce and had no job, no car and no suitable living arrangements. Jason had married and his new wife wanted a child so jason learns of my financial trouble and with his well off parents’ money to back him up he takes her from me at 4 yrs old. An ignorant judge awarded custody to a man who wanted nothing 2 do with her and he didnt even know her. On top of that he was facing charges 4 a 2nd dui. What kind of judge gives somebodys baby to people she dont even know and forces her 8 hours away from the only family shes ever known. They got her last year and have been refusing any contact with any of the family she once had. They tell her that tracy and james arent mommy and daddy that him and lisa are. They took away all her photos of us and her 2 brothers. They want her to 4get us but i wont allow it 2 happen. As her mother i have rights and it wont be long b4 he hangs hisself with another dui. I just hope my daughter doesnt get hurt in the process. I am angry with the judicial system that decided money was more important than a childs well being and best interest. Shame on you judge Dixon, Madisonville, Tn. Maybe if you put down that 8ball of coke a min. and clear your head u might have actually been able to do what was best for my sweet baby girl.
9. 

   carol
   

   02. May, 2010

   I get so tired of seeing things like this going on and none of it is eer the woman’s fault. I know first hand about brainwashing and children being pawns in a divorce. I’ve seen it with my daughter-inlaw and her mother with my grandchlildren. But you never see or hear anythingabout the man being the victum like my son has been with his ex-wife. I fought for women’s rights and many of you women who enjoy those rights today do so because of women like me and your grandmothers who fought for them. We fought for equal rights for women and men- not one sided- just because you are a woman- like it is today. That’s the court system with women today like my daughter in-law who abuses the very rights I fought for her to have. Someone plese recognize these too- there are far more of them by women like her then you think. The very things you say onhere that men are doing- she is doing and has gotten away with for years against my son and his children icnluding keeping him from talking to them or seeing them. The lies she’s told them- my 15 year old grandson calls me by my first name- because his mother tells him to. Talk about disrepectful. There are many descent men who are abused just like there are many descent women- but you never see them or hear about them or what they go through.
10. 

    Joyce
    

    03. May, 2010

    @Carol, May 2, 2010. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I belief my 15 year old grandchild is being brainwashed. The mother has told me that she can’t visit me until she is 18. I could publically bring the mother down but won’t because I don’t want to cause any emotional abuse to my grandchild. We (my side of the family including my son) have only tried to be helpful towards the mother and two other “fatherless” children. This alienation has been going on for 5 years now. I don’t know how to break through the entire mess.
11. 

    tonya
    

    21. May, 2010

    I have been with my other half now going onto 7 years. I have 2 kids one from him and they other from my ex. He has 3 kids 1 is his and 2 is not. He said that he loves all the kids the same but I think other wise. I think what is best is if only he spoke and did thinks with his daughter to regain what ever was lost in that time. I on the other side of the fence don’t want to deal with the other kids. I know it might seem a little cold hearted of me. To me its to much stress and the last time that they spoke she tride to put him in jail. And everytime he wanted to see the kids she would say no, no, no, and know she say yes, there was other times when he started to go over to see the kids it wound up one time a week, two times a week, I need a ride to work more than once. you can take the kids and here is their laundry basket, and I need money we are going to get kicket out. Does anyone out there feel what Im trying to say. And I could make the list longer. Its from all these thing that has happend that I don’t want to deal with his ex life at all and only his daughter I would rather have me kids play together. If any one can give some edvice on how to better handle the situation please give me a call. My number is (702) 764-0078 and thank you for reading my distess.
12. 

    Janice
    

    29. May, 2010

    This is the utmost betrayal on a human spirit. I thought i was alone and found this website. I have no family but really close friends.

    My son has been mentally abused by his father for 17 years. I sat back hoping something would change or that this mans heart would see his child in pain.

    My son has now turned to drugs and even that will not make his father stop! now he just says I am the one who made our son do it. and ignores the serious signs that my son is going down quickly. The vicious lies he has bestowed on anyone who will listen, now has made my atempts for help unanswered. I can’t sleep at night and all I know is I feel I raised my son to be a good man and hope that will prevail.

    We have laws for consumers that are wronged by companies yet emotional and mental abuse on children is far neglected.

    If i could have one wish, it would be my son able to be loved by both his parents.
13. 

    Shawntae Retledge
    

    24. Jun, 2010

    My child’s father is brain washing my five year old daughter, because he is made that I moved on with somebody else, he has make false alagations against me, he has made inappropriate sexual gestures to my daughter, and no law will do anything about it, and I need help, and it is killing me, and hurting my daughter.