Brainwashing Children

20 Responses to “Other ways of describing the Brainwashing of Children”

1. 

   Michelle
   

   29. Jun, 2009

   Thank you for being a voice for not only the parents who are dealing with this heartbreaking issue but for the children who are being victimized by mental abuse. Brainwashing is one of the most damaging forms of abuse yet it is the one that is the most often over looked. It takes courage,determination,selflessness and a pure love for a child to combat mental abuse. I commend you for your efforts and I am grateful that you are taking a stand and offering hope,solutions and support to the families who are fighting this uphill battle.
2. 

   Tricia Nagel
   

   21. Sep, 2009

   Its nice to know that I am not alone. Everyone thinks I am crazy because my soon to be ex husband does this to my children behind my back. Even having the youngest throw temper tantrums when I tell her no. He even goes as far as to prey on my childrens fears for example: he tells my daughter things like if she eats things from a microwave that she is going to die from cancer or that using the computer will degenerate her eyes and give her an eye disease that will make her go blind. The strange thing is that we have to live together, well, we are going through divorce and we both have temporary custody and I won’t leave because I refuse to leave my children. I don’t know how to combat all that he does to the children and for the last 3+ years that we have been going through divorce, I have been teaching my children how to stand up to him by asking him things like why hes asking them what hes asking them. When I point out that they have done nothing wrong and that it is wrong for daddy to question them and tell them that daddy is just mad at mommy for divorcing him, that it has nothing to do with them; then they think I am trying to make them choose between us. I get defensive about it I guess and tell them that they have a right to love both of us, but that neither of us have the right to hurt them. The circumstances are horrible and everyday I am consumed by the thought of what he is going to do next and how I am going to defend and protect my children because he is relentless. All I want is for my children to be normal and happy. We want to have freedom from the drama he creates. I have used every avenue of resources to try and prove that this abuse is going on, but a childs voice is unheard and in court he calls it hearsay. The kids are afraid to tell anyone (with the exception of me and each other)what is going on because they have to deal with their dad when they get home. And believe me, it is hard to prove abuse when he waits till he is alone with them before he starts the abuse. To the rest of the world he is the model dad who plays with his children in the front yard for all the world to see and is abusing them mentally and physically in the backyard behind the fence.(flicking,hitting and slapping in the head which leaves no visable scars on the child but leaves emotional ones that last a lifetime)Children’s services don’t care that the food in our cupboards is 2 and 3 years old. All they care about is that they get a meal a day and that they have a bed to sleep in. I have a lawyer that tells me to get used to the abuse because thats how its going to be when the divorce goes final. What she really means is that because you are a stay at home mom and since you don’t have any money to pay me then you just have to suck it up and deal. Our local shelter for abused women has urged me to take my children and leave, but I can’t because we both have temporary custody; which was fine over 3 years ago when this divorce started but, is not fine now. He is tearing my childrens relationships apart and he has his brother helping him. We even have in-house visitation so we get time alone with the children and he does all the classic things listed on this site.My children call me crying about what he did or what he said etc… I always listen and calm them down and try to make them laugh and feel better. I am going crazy trying to help and protect my children and its changing who I am. All of this makes me think of ways to try and stop him. It makes me feel like I want to die and in the same breath it makes me want to scream HOW DARE YOU MAKE ME FEEL THIS WAY!! HOW DARE YOU HURT OUR CHILDREN LIKE THIS!! I WISH YOU WOULD JUST GO AWAY!! YOU DON’T LOVE THE CHILDREN BECAUSE IF YOU DID THEN YOU WOULDN’T HURT THEM AND CHANGE WHO THEY ARE AND WHO THEY WILL BE!! GOD, PLEASE HELP ME HELP MY CHILDREN!! I honestly think my sanity is leaving on the next train… no matter the outcome of this situation, I will never stop defending and protecting my children and helping them to cope with what they are feeling and reach an understanding that it’s not their fault. I AM THEIR MOTHER AND IT IS NOT ONLY MY DUTY, IT IS MY RIGHT AND ABOVE ALL MY HONOR TO PROTECT, LOVE AND NUTURE MY CHILDREN!! Thanks for letting me blow off a little steam and Thank you for providing this helpful and hopeful information.
3. 

   rhinoplasty
   

   23. Sep, 2009

   Nice site!
4. 

   Robin Mead
   

   17. Oct, 2009

   It’s not just the custodial parent who does this. My ex told my son I was crazy, nuts, just ranting or raving and then he left him alone at 12 going on 13 to color in the picture for two years while the divorce was happening. If there was anything my son didn’t want to do, he’d fight with me, calling me crazy or ranting, saying I was just taking the divorce out on him, etc… As soon as the divorce was over, the ex sends him music with a message of how he was forced to leave. Living with a sone who doesn’t have to listen to his mother because she’s crazy is a horrible living experience. It’s been horrible for me but far worse for my son. How will he ever be able to discern real from illusion?
5. 

   satellite p
   

   10. Nov, 2009

   It’s cathartic just to be able to tell cyberspace about the psychological abuse being heaped on a 5 yr old by his ‘daddy’ – he’s become father of the year since he moved out!!! Where was he for the preceding years? Now he’s brainwashing the child and makes him ‘promise’ to do horrible things and not do others – when with mama. You can see this little cutie pie struggling with everything mommy says to see if it’s something ‘daddy’ doesn’t want him to do. How long can the little one keep that up? He deprives him of sleep and nutritious food (thinks that’s spiteful to mom) and when he comes home the child’s beyond rational thought for two days. And just when he’s enjoying being at home again he gets scooped off with superdaddy once more. Hoping beyond hope for a cure – it’s beyond painful to watch and say nothing.
6. 

   Theresa
   

   14. Nov, 2009

   I live this everyday………..I am afraid of my son’s father, I’m in a relationship with him and truly afraid to leave and cut ties completely for my son’s sake. Help!!! Please, any advice I would greatly appreciate, I know it is going to be a long, drawn out nasty court battle once again, but I just need to prove that this emotional abuse is going on!!
7. 

   Sharon Cole
   

   16. Dec, 2009

   There are some sick Dads out there (and mothers I am sure) My ex-husband stuck a knife in my daughters virgina when she was 3. It was witnessed by her older siblings, 4 year old sister and 7 year old brother. (I was at a Stubbenville retreat with my older daugther) He as had custody for the last 8 years, I have not seen my girls in over two years. When mommy and daddy stand to lose their only son, (only male born in family line) and a business to boot, with the exposure of what their son did to their granddaughter……The lies and deframation of my character are unbelieveable! Abby is now 13 and hopefully more then willing to tell the truth. Her number is (deleted by ed.)!! Grandparents and Dad have paid hundreds of thousands of $$ to to keep all of this quite. In conclusion, my friend, and a therapist (the same therapist my daughter openly disclosed what her dad did to her) for over 25 years, comments, when yours girls make their way back home to mom (thats me) yours girls will have to go through years of therapy just to undo the mental brainwashing!!! May there be enough calls and attempts to contact my Abby that it will make enough attention that someone will do the honest and lawfull thing of getting her and her sister out of there and to a safe place!!!! God Bless all who make an attempt. Let my Abby know that mom Loves her all the way to Jesus in Heaven and Back!!!
8. 

   Chuck
   

   23. Dec, 2009

   You know the saddest part about all of this…is that we site here blaming him or her or Daddy, or Mommy…lawyers make a good living off of the destruction of families. There are good people/parents and there are bad. But what makes the system operate the way it does is our corrupted legal system which knows that whether your’re male or female….there’s a good chance you’ll fight to see you kids. So what did lawyers/politicians create? They created a system which gives women unfail advantage in court over men. Why? Well I believe (and if you look how courts proceed it seems clear to me) that it’s set up this way to promote time in court which for an attorney/politician…that’s good money. It’s all a game that politicians, attorneys, judges have been playing with families for years and people just accept it now. Look at the system they created. First, lets agree that divorce is usually very difficult on the kids unless of course you need to remove the child from that environment. But in reality, the percentage of that are very low. Typically it’s the mother/father who need to work on things..but the kids end up suffering, and parents end up paying for it in legal fees but it’s never a satisfactory solution.

   So what have they set up…well, we have:
   No fault divorce: Now you don’t even need a reason to get a divorce…there’s easy money for some unethical attorney. Destroy a family that probably could have been saved and make good money doing it.

   States get Federal money for every person who enteres the Single Custodial Parent role: Lots of people don’t know this…but it all makes sense. Get as many people into the divorce machine as you can and crank up those Single Custodial Parent” numbers so that the state gets more federal money. That’s a win/win situation for the state and attorneys. The state gets the federal money but you as a father for instance don’t see that federal money….no no…you have to pay child support. So you are paying for your kids even thuogh you only see them a fraction of the time, while the state collects a check from uncle sam. Of course attorneys make out because they represent the fool who thinks he/she will get any justice in this legal system run by self serving politicians, lawyers, judges.

   Women put at an unfair advantage over men: This just sets men up so that if they want any justice..they’re going to have to pay $10,000 plus for it! Again, nice job if you’re an attorney.

   So how can it be fixed quickly? FIrst, divorce should never be promoted when young kids are involved. The court should do whatever it can to do what’s right for the kids. So first, judges need to start asking question when the papers are filed for divorce. If the couple has no children…easier case. If they have children…get to the root of the problem in the marriage. Who filed and why?

   Pass laws that put the parents on equal terms. When it comes to custody…it should be 50/50 by default and the parties can change that if they agree to.

   Get rid of alimony…this should have gone above…if a person files for divorce…they should have NO RIGHT to file for alimony unless there is a good reason. Instead, alimony is always there so again, you give someone a gun (out legal system), you give them a bullet (alimoney), and attornyes hope that with that power, someone will go after alimony or pull that trigger…why? Because they can.

   Oh lets not forget restraining orders. It’s way to easy to get a restraining order. Talk about Parental alienation. Again there is only ONE reason why you pass, or set up laws like this, to increase court time and money made in court.

   Some laws like the 50/50 custody could be easily put in place but by doing that…people won’t have anything to go to court to fight over and pay attorneys fees.

   You get what you subsidize….if you want people to go to court, then you simply give unfair advantage to a different group. You “subsidize” them so that in order to fight them in court, you have to pay. They do too…but the point is, they have an unfair advantage and were given things that they should not have been given without some level of investigation….and again, there is no investigation unless you go to trial….which again, costs thousands. It’s quite I nice little system they’ve created. Totally unfair and people have come to accept it….that is, unless they get sucked into it themselves.
9. 

   Jess
   

   28. Dec, 2009

   Their are also sick mothers, let me tell you it goes both ways.

   My boyfriend’s ex doesn’t let him see the kids, or speak to them for that matter for weeks at a time. Unfortunately, they are not legally separated or divorced. My boyfriend doesn’t want to hurt the kids, so he refuses to stick up for his rights.

   By the time we do get to spend time with his 2 children, they are so confused about things like their last name, to his son thinking he can be a girl. He is 3, and very vulnerable. How can you tell a child it is ok to be a girl.

   It’s sad.
10. 

    cindy crone
    

    20. Jan, 2010

    MY SON HAS BEEN ABUSED AND USED BY A WOMAN WHO HAS A SON, THAT THE PARENTS OF HERS HAVE KEPT THE MAN IN THE DARK FOR YEARS . THEN MY SON MARRIES HER, ANDLOVED HIM AS HIS OWN. FOR 4 YEARS. THEN HAD 2 CHILDREN WITH HER OF HIS OWN. WORKED HIS ASS OFF DROVE A CAR WITH NO HEAT, AND HER PARENTS WOULD NOT EVER LEAVE THEM ALONE SHE RAN TO THEM ALL THE TIME. I AM THE MOTHER OF MY SON. SHE WENT TO JAIL ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FOR 3 DAYS. HER MOTHER FOUGHT HIM SCRATCHED HIM WITH HIS DAUGHTER IN HIS ARMS. NOW SHE HAS TAKEN MY SON TO COURT 2 TIMES IN THE LAST YEAR. FOR MORE MONEY, AND NOW BACK TO COURT AGAIN ON A RESTRANING ORDER. WHY CAUSE HE CALLED AND ASKED HER TO PLEASE BRING CLOTHES THAT FIT THE KIDS. AND SHE FILED A DOMESTIC CHARGE THAT HE THREATENED HER. THOSE PARENTS OF HERS, ALSO TOOK MY GRANDCHILDREN AND HIDED THEM EVEN FROM THE LAW. FOR ALMOST 24 HOURS. UNTIL I SAID CALL THE FBI IN. THEN THE CHILDREN APPEARED. I HARDLY SEE MY BABIES. AND GUESS WHAT. I AM GOING TO FILE ALOT OF CHARGES. RIGHT BACK IN THEIR FACE. I MAY GO TO JAIL. BUT I BET I MAKE A SCENE IN THE COURT HOUSE ON JAN 26 2010 IN CANTON OHIO. MY SON LOVES HIS KIDS. AND ONE EXCELLENT FATHER. THAT THEY HAD THREATENED HIS LIFE. SHE GOES TO JAIL BUT MY SON PAYS THE PRICE. THIS IS NOT JUSTICE. SHE HAS ONE CHILD WITH NO FATHER. I GUESS SHE WANTS 2 MORE. HER MOM AND DAD BRAIN WASH THESE BABIES. AND I WILL TRY IN MY HEART SOUL AND LIFE. TO STOP IT. ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREATFUL. GOD BLESS THE LITTLE ANGELS THAT GOD GAVE US.
11. 

    kindness
    

    01. May, 2010

    I live in canton ohio. I have 2 kids in foster care. my case worker want my 2 kids to be put for adoption. Im not giving up on mu 2 kids. we need to all come together. we have to stop cps & family court. cps is all about lies & money. we need a good strong fighting organization in all states. we have to keep fighting for all of our kids & rights. We need a organization here in ohio. I would like for anyone in ohio to contact me. my e-mail is kindnessohio33@yahoo.com or u can contact me on fb. It is time we wake up ohio. I need a lot of help & support. A lot of parents dont have money for a good attorney. we can all come together to help bring our kids home
12. 

    Kayla Ramos
    

    18. May, 2010

    I think my ex is hurting my 3 yr old baby girl and saying that her step father made him do it. She comes back with bruises and has nightmares everynight. She wont have anything to do with my husband, and she accuses him of terrible things that he didn’t do. She came home from his house saying that “Poppy hit her and kicked her and punched her and that her Daddy was going to break Poppy.” Poppy is her step father. We dont even spank the kids. He has never hurt her in any way. She throws tempertantrums all the time saying Poppy tell me No! But that is all he did to her. He is afraid to have anything to do with her. When he tries to hold her or hug her, she busts out screaming she wants her mommy and tries to get away from him as quickly as possible. You could see the hurt on his face. He has known her since she was 6 months old, but they didnt see each other for a couple of years after that, but they talked on the phone the whole time. We have called the police and DSS and they wont help us. What do you do when someone is hurting your child and the only people who could help choose not to? I feel helpless and useless. My hands are tied. I cant keep her here with me because my ex and I are court ordered to split the week with her. If I break it, I lose custody and wont be able to do anything to help her. What in the hell do I do?
13. 

    Steve
    

    28. May, 2010

    I live this everyday………..I am afraid of my son’s father, I’m in a relationship with him and truly afraid to leave and cut ties completely for my son’s sake. Help!!! Please, any advice I would greatly appreciate, I know it is going to be a long, drawn out nasty court battle once again, but I just need to prove that this emotional abuse is going on!!
14. 

    Amy
    

    04. Jun, 2010

    You know the saddest part about all of this…is that we sit here blaming him or her or Daddy, or Mommy…lawyers make a good living off of the destruction of families. There are good people/parents and there are bad. But what makes the system operate the way it does is our corrupted legal system which knows that whether your’re male or female….there’s a good chance you’ll fight to see you kids. So what did lawyers/politicians create? They created a system which gives women unfail advantage in court over men. Why? Well I believe (and if you look how courts proceed it seems clear to me) that it’s set up this way to promote time in court which for an attorney/politician…that’s good money. It’s all a game that politicians, attorneys, judges have been playing with families for years and people just accept it now. Look at the system they created. First, lets agree that divorce is usually very difficult on the kids unless of course you need to remove the child from that environment. But in reality, the percentage of that are very low. Typically it’s the mother/father who need to work on things..but the kids end up suffering, and parents end up paying for it in legal fees but it’s never a satisfactory solution.

    So what have they set up…well, we have:
    No fault divorce: Now you don’t even need a reason to get a divorce…there’s easy money for some unethical attorney. Destroy a family that probably could have been saved and make good money doing it.

    States get Federal money for every person who enteres the Single Custodial Parent role: Lots of people don’t know this…but it all makes sense. Get as many people into the divorce machine as you can and crank up those Single Custodial Parent” numbers so that the state gets more federal money. That’s a win/win situation for the state and attorneys. The state gets the federal money but you as a father for instance don’t see that federal money….no no…you have to pay child support. So you are paying for your kids even thuogh you only see them a fraction of the time, while the state collects a check from uncle sam. Of course attorneys make out because they represent the fool who thinks he/she will get any justice in this legal system run by self serving politicians, lawyers, judges.

    Women put at an unfair advantage over men: This just sets men up so that if they want any justice..they’re going to have to pay $10,000 plus for it! Again, nice job if you’re an attorney.

    So how can it be fixed quickly? FIrst, divorce should never be promoted when young kids are involved. The court should do whatever it can to do what’s right for the kids. So first, judges need to start asking question when the papers are filed for divorce. If the couple has no children…easier case. If they have children…get to the root of the problem in the marriage. Who filed and why?

    Pass laws that put the parents on equal terms. When it comes to custody…it should be 50/50 by default and the parties can change that if they agree to.

    Get rid of alimony…this should have gone above…if a person files for divorce…they should have NO RIGHT to file for alimony unless there is a good reason. Instead, alimony is always there so again, you give someone a gun (out legal system), you give them a bullet (alimoney), and attornyes hope that with that power, someone will go after alimony or pull that trigger…why? Because they can.

    Oh lets not forget restraining orders. It’s way to easy to get a restraining order. Talk about Parental alienation. Again there is only ONE reason why you pass, or set up laws like this, to increase court time and money made in court.

    Some laws like the 50/50 custody could be easily put in place but by doing that…people won’t have anything to go to court to fight over and pay attorneys fees.

    You get what you subsidize….if you want people to go to court, then you simply give unfair advantage to a different group. You “subsidize” them so that in order to fight them in court, you have to pay. They do too…but the point is, they have an unfair advantage and were given things that they should not have been given without some level of investigation….and again, there is no investigation unless you go to trial….which again, costs thousands. It’s quite I nice little system they’ve created. Totally unfair and people have come to accept it….that is, unless they get sucked into it themselves.
15. 

    Jamie Main
    

    06. Oct, 2010

    Thank you so much for this site. I don’t feel so alone anymore. Tell me, how do you convince the courts, police etc. that the other parent is lying about you and emotionally destroying your children? He is such a convincing liar…
16. 

    Mary
    

    02. Nov, 2010

    I believe some of these responses were posted by inebriated minors…Some very informative. That said. My parent’s emotionally and mentally abused me. i am now 30, I knew what that was and it was wrong of them before I could walk, I was informed what to call it when I was 7-8 years old from visiting police to my 3rd grade. My parents constantly fought, and enjoyed the terrorizing effects this had. My mother would say my Dad would come home if he had a boy to play ball with before i was 3. when my brother was born, things did change. My mother blamed me for her post partem depression from pregnancy with me and began doting on my brother. I was to be his protector and big sis. I adored him and then my Mother started pitting him against me, not making him share like I had to, punishing me for things he did and the things I did. He realized before he could walk that he would get positive attention for blaming me for anything, even nothing and I would be punished, shamed and ignored. After I learned this was emotional and mental abuse I accused my parents of this, they said I was too young to know what I was talking about. When calling my Father at work wouldn’t help my Mother and Brother’s malicious ganging up on me, name calling. I was 6 the first time I threatened to call the police, I was made to be terrified of foster care at this notion and didn’t try again. My mother convinced my Father and Brother it was a good idea, aligning against me, they would collectively ridicule me, for having a security blanket at 5, for being afraid of anything or ever crying, calling me a cry baby, then as I regressed further into myself and my imaginary world, they collectively made fun of me and said I was schizophrenic, or I would be when I got older ( after crying for days I was informed this was in order to protect me from being institutionalized when I was older). I stopped sharing anything with them and I cried myself to sleep almost every night until I was 11 and decided to stop. My brother was allowed to terrorize me, along with his friends all throughout to adolescence. I have a friend from age 7 who collaborates this finely. I was 11 when I finally demanded a room to myself (for my sanity’s sake more then appropriate privacy) I was given and unheated and uncooled room in the front of the house completely filled with boxes save for space for a mattress on the floor, not my half the bunk bed left for my brother’s friends to use, I was not allowed to decorate, and made fun of for any attempts to personalize my space, and had to keep the door open at all times even while changing, until I demanded decency, which my mother would open randomly, sometimes with company over, the door was an accordion wall and could open over 4′ wide. She would “helicopter” hover over me when ever I did homework, every 5 to 10 minutes on the dot, to the infuriating point of distraction, so i did my work haphazardly on the way to school or in class. She would discuss any and every whim about how bad I was to all of my aunts with children, none of whom would return the exchange of their own children knowing she would only begin to demonize their children as well. I tried to run away from home at 5 and did for an evening at 14 to a friend’s foster family. My brother hates me for having forced us to go to counseling as my “compromise” to come home, which was provided by the state free, and was a group disaster. I had no support and was utterly alone to the point of becoming suicidal once, in which my Father caught me in the act of searching for a knife in the dark at his office one night, said I could always talk to him, we would try to figure something out, then never brought it up again. I had been groomed to be attracted to abusers. so all of my friends in high school were exceptionally abusive, usually with the excuse I was skinny and pretty, they would sleep with my boyfriends when I would not, they would stalk and harass me, and defame me at any cost, one girl who had taken a liking to my father and called him Dad, 4 years later nearly was expelled and not allowed to graduate for threatening to have her boyfriend kill me. She had previously spent a Summer 3 years earlier calling and threatening to shoot me and another mutual friend because I had been able to appeal to her better judgement at not ostracizing me for size discrimination.
    Despite all of this I graduated from a nationally renowned high school, and proceeded to put myself part time through 5 years of College, while working full time and double-time over summers to save, with some savings bond assistance from my Grandparents. Completing 3 years of a 4 year degree A/B student, when I finally had another mental breakdown from burnout, as perfectionist eldest child of an alcoholic (Father) will tend to do. Anxiety attacks forced me back to seek counseling and I was convinced after no progress to take antidepressants, when I found out my brother went to jail as I had predicted a year to the day earlier for our parent’s enabling him to sell and do drugs. I was methodically overdosed by the psychiatrist and family doctor to the point of loosing my job, school, and ability to stay awake…. 6 years later I am still scraping my life back together, with a continuously abusive family, and fictitious support of “friends”, and extended family, who expect me to help them when asked, or truer friends who are at a loss of how to assist me in recovery. I was not born a victim, I was groomed to be one, and as I struggle to reassert my independence I find the systems in place to aid, inefficient, jaded, or heavily weighted to assist certain other special needs. As I go out to vote today, I consider my life’s struggles to shape my decisions in all that I do. I love my family despite all their faults, and realize that the 30 odd specialist I have seen over the years to all have had a hand in helping me break the fear of rejection and abandonment keeping me from truly being free of my oppressors and truly feel sorry for their insistent need to bully, and condition new bullies, to feel superior..I fight my own faults, and humbly grieve my losses of self, childhood, and a healthy family outlook. Public school was my daily bastion and safe haven until I felt safe enough to leave on my own. Abusers will not admit their faults, nor correct them unless they truly have a personal change of conscience.
17. 

    mary
    

    02. Nov, 2010

    Teaching hate
    Attack on the child’s soul
    Parental alienation
    Sabotaging the parent-child bond
    Aligning the child against the parent
    Poisoning the child’s mind
    Inducing false hatred
    Stealing the child’s soul
    Crushing/killing the child’s spiritCrushing/killing the child’s spirit
    Relationship is under attack
    Erasing or rewriting the child’s good memories
    Bashing the parent
    Denying a loving relationship
    Programming
    Squashing the child’s desire for a relationship
    Mental torture
    Mental torment
    Badmouthing the parent
    Instill hatred where love once existed
    Campaign to destroy the parent-child relationship
    Mental or psychological child abuse
    Emotional child abuse
    Denying the child the love of one of his/her parents
    Teaching hate
    Attack on the child’s soul
    Parental alienation
    Sabotaging the parent-child bond
    Aligning the child against the parent
    Poisoning the child’s mind
    Inducing false hatred
    Stealing the child’s soul
    Crushing/killing the child’s spirit

    I was subjected to all of these over 30 years.. under the guise of religious rightous fanaticism never apologetic; one parent mixed with, the other; freedom, independence loving, shamefully apologetic for both, yet continues to behave the same. I was never fooled by their selfishness, though at times I questioned the other parent’s love based on what one said to alienate me from the other. The power of doubt weighs heavily in the conscious of a child who wishes for love and approval. the sadistic acts of these two people I call Mom and Dad are not all the time, yet like any irrational bipolar relationship it has it’s ups and downs. i was born into believing parents are the most selfish, evil people on the planet for their direct causal of inflicting such great damage. generation after generation of decisive self denial, lack of personal reflection with action to improve. Now it’s my job to give myself the childhood I never had, be my own healthy parents, find a need to fill without seeking other’s approval foremost, and discover what a healthy relationship really is.
18. 

    Sam
    

    22. Nov, 2010

    This site has been a blessing, cause i know im not crazy and have a mental illness as descibed by a recent family councelling session. He, my ex has destroyed my relationship with my daughters. Im heart broken and needed answers cause all the important people are not listening, or believe me. Thankyou.
19. 

    admin
    

    21. Dec, 2010

    Hello everyone, this is John, the owner of this blog.

    Thanks for sharing your heartfelt personal stories of lies and emotional abuse.

    Please visit the newly opened FORUMS here at BWC, it’s a much better way to discuss these issues. Here’s a direct link:

    http://www.brainwashingchildren.com/forums. See you over there!
20. 

    Diane
    

    16. Sep, 2011

    I am the step-mom of a 12 year old boy. I came into the picture when he was 2 years old. He loved me, and I loved and still loved him. He adored and hung on every word his father (my husband) said. His daddy was his hero. When he was 4 his mother had planned to kidnapp him and take him from Texas to California, but we found out and wen through the court for a restraining order. The matter had to be heard in court. They assigned a GAL, and a Social Worker to the case. The mom lied and said it was for 6 months and she only just found out 2 days before we went to court, yet she had signed a lease in CA almost 2 months before we went (we didn’t know this at the time). Both parents found to be fit, and she said it was for 6 months tops then she would be returning to Texas with him. GAL and SW decided it wouldn’t be detrimental for 6 months and since Mom wouldn’t be working while there, it would be okay, but he had to have monthly visitation w/ Dad.
    The 6 months, came and went and the relationship grew further and further apart. Mom was so super mad that we found out and cost her a LOT of money in court just to get to CA with her new husband. They were then allowed by the courts after almost a year to move to Nebraska. The 1 time per month visiation which begain 9am on Sat. and ended at 4pm on Sun (hardly any time at all with the child) had to be carried out in a hotel as it was too far. The relationship further deteriorated. Mom was ticket because we again cost her tons of money in court to go to Nebraska.

    Mom moved back to Texas 2 years later, but almost 2.5 hours away. Dad got 1,3, 5th weekends, but Mom put son in football, baseball, etc. That was on the weekends so we didn’t get him on Friday night, we went to his games on Saturday and brought him back home with us. This gave us less than 1.5 days together visitation. Sometimes he didn’t want ot go with us because his friends were having a party that evening, or doing something he wanted to do. He was 8 at this point. This occured about every other visitation. My husband argued with his son that he missed him and wanted time with him, the time that he had rights too and started saying no to the all the extra activities on his weekends. It was a loosing battle and the relationship further deterioriated. They moved yet again to another town in Texas (5th relocation) he is now 10. He get’s involved in football, baseball, basketball and his grades are horrible, yet his mother still lets him play all these sports, which are further cause for him not wanting to come to our house for visitation (through local youth group which his step-dad runs).

    This year we’ve seen him 2 weekends. His mom leaves with him before we get there, or he refuses to get in the car with us. He says it’s us. How can it be when we never get to see him. Could it really be over his dad wanting time with him? Time away from his mom and his buddies so they can get to know each other? After finding this website, I’m convinced it’s brainwashing. His step-dad has told him many times his dad should just sign over rights to him since he doesn’t care anyway. Mom calls dad piss-poor in front of the child. Mom helps him miss visitation. Mom has him call his step-dad, Dad but use to get pissed at him when he would call me Mom and told hmi not to do any more. Mom even one time took him the 4 hour drive to our exchange point when they were in NE, on a day that wasn’t ours, and then told him if his daddy loved him, he would be there to see him.

    The courts have always ruled in her favor, but I don’t understand why. His Daddy loves him a lot, he pays his child support, and has gone to all of his games that he could (sometimes he has to work weekends) and that he knew about (she would often claim that she didn’t have a schedule and send us to the website for the youth group and there wouldn’t be anything there-keep in mind her husband is over the youth group).

    This child hates us both now and we barely ever see him. He is about to turn 13. We are going to back to court next month with over 20 contempts. What can we do to get the court to take this seriously and see what is really going on???