Brainwashing Children

10 Responses to “Other ways of describing the Brainwashing of Children”

1. 

   Michelle
   

   29. Jun, 2009

   Thank you for being a voice for not only the parents who are dealing with this heartbreaking issue but for the children who are being victimized by mental abuse. Brainwashing is one of the most damaging forms of abuse yet it is the one that is the most often over looked. It takes courage,determination,selflessness and a pure love for a child to combat mental abuse. I commend you for your efforts and I am grateful that you are taking a stand and offering hope,solutions and support to the families who are fighting this uphill battle.
2. 

   Tricia Nagel
   

   21. Sep, 2009

   Its nice to know that I am not alone. Everyone thinks I am crazy because my soon to be ex husband does this to my children behind my back. Even having the youngest throw temper tantrums when I tell her no. He even goes as far as to prey on my childrens fears for example: he tells my daughter things like if she eats things from a microwave that she is going to die from cancer or that using the computer will degenerate her eyes and give her an eye disease that will make her go blind. The strange thing is that we have to live together, well, we are going through divorce and we both have temporary custody and I won’t leave because I refuse to leave my children. I don’t know how to combat all that he does to the children and for the last 3+ years that we have been going through divorce, I have been teaching my children how to stand up to him by asking him things like why hes asking them what hes asking them. When I point out that they have done nothing wrong and that it is wrong for daddy to question them and tell them that daddy is just mad at mommy for divorcing him, that it has nothing to do with them; then they think I am trying to make them choose between us. I get defensive about it I guess and tell them that they have a right to love both of us, but that neither of us have the right to hurt them. The circumstances are horrible and everyday I am consumed by the thought of what he is going to do next and how I am going to defend and protect my children because he is relentless. All I want is for my children to be normal and happy. We want to have freedom from the drama he creates. I have used every avenue of resources to try and prove that this abuse is going on, but a childs voice is unheard and in court he calls it hearsay. The kids are afraid to tell anyone (with the exception of me and each other)what is going on because they have to deal with their dad when they get home. And believe me, it is hard to prove abuse when he waits till he is alone with them before he starts the abuse. To the rest of the world he is the model dad who plays with his children in the front yard for all the world to see and is abusing them mentally and physically in the backyard behind the fence.(flicking,hitting and slapping in the head which leaves no visable scars on the child but leaves emotional ones that last a lifetime)Children’s services don’t care that the food in our cupboards is 2 and 3 years old. All they care about is that they get a meal a day and that they have a bed to sleep in. I have a lawyer that tells me to get used to the abuse because thats how its going to be when the divorce goes final. What she really means is that because you are a stay at home mom and since you don’t have any money to pay me then you just have to suck it up and deal. Our local shelter for abused women has urged me to take my children and leave, but I can’t because we both have temporary custody; which was fine over 3 years ago when this divorce started but, is not fine now. He is tearing my childrens relationships apart and he has his brother helping him. We even have in-house visitation so we get time alone with the children and he does all the classic things listed on this site.My children call me crying about what he did or what he said etc… I always listen and calm them down and try to make them laugh and feel better. I am going crazy trying to help and protect my children and its changing who I am. All of this makes me think of ways to try and stop him. It makes me feel like I want to die and in the same breath it makes me want to scream HOW DARE YOU MAKE ME FEEL THIS WAY!! HOW DARE YOU HURT OUR CHILDREN LIKE THIS!! I WISH YOU WOULD JUST GO AWAY!! YOU DON’T LOVE THE CHILDREN BECAUSE IF YOU DID THEN YOU WOULDN’T HURT THEM AND CHANGE WHO THEY ARE AND WHO THEY WILL BE!! GOD, PLEASE HELP ME HELP MY CHILDREN!! I honestly think my sanity is leaving on the next train… no matter the outcome of this situation, I will never stop defending and protecting my children and helping them to cope with what they are feeling and reach an understanding that it’s not their fault. I AM THEIR MOTHER AND IT IS NOT ONLY MY DUTY, IT IS MY RIGHT AND ABOVE ALL MY HONOR TO PROTECT, LOVE AND NUTURE MY CHILDREN!! Thanks for letting me blow off a little steam and Thank you for providing this helpful and hopeful information.
3. 

   rhinoplasty
   

   23. Sep, 2009

   Nice site!
4. 

   Robin Mead
   

   17. Oct, 2009

   It’s not just the custodial parent who does this. My ex told my son I was crazy, nuts, just ranting or raving and then he left him alone at 12 going on 13 to color in the picture for two years while the divorce was happening. If there was anything my son didn’t want to do, he’d fight with me, calling me crazy or ranting, saying I was just taking the divorce out on him, etc… As soon as the divorce was over, the ex sends him music with a message of how he was forced to leave. Living with a sone who doesn’t have to listen to his mother because she’s crazy is a horrible living experience. It’s been horrible for me but far worse for my son. How will he ever be able to discern real from illusion?
5. 

   satellite p
   

   10. Nov, 2009

   It’s cathartic just to be able to tell cyberspace about the psychological abuse being heaped on a 5 yr old by his ‘daddy’ – he’s become father of the year since he moved out!!! Where was he for the preceding years? Now he’s brainwashing the child and makes him ‘promise’ to do horrible things and not do others – when with mama. You can see this little cutie pie struggling with everything mommy says to see if it’s something ‘daddy’ doesn’t want him to do. How long can the little one keep that up? He deprives him of sleep and nutritious food (thinks that’s spiteful to mom) and when he comes home the child’s beyond rational thought for two days. And just when he’s enjoying being at home again he gets scooped off with superdaddy once more. Hoping beyond hope for a cure – it’s beyond painful to watch and say nothing.
6. 

   Theresa
   

   14. Nov, 2009

   I live this everyday………..I am afraid of my son’s father, I’m in a relationship with him and truly afraid to leave and cut ties completely for my son’s sake. Help!!! Please, any advice I would greatly appreciate, I know it is going to be a long, drawn out nasty court battle once again, but I just need to prove that this emotional abuse is going on!!
7. 

   Sharon Cole
   

   16. Dec, 2009

   There are some sick Dads out there (and mothers I am sure) My ex-husband stuck a knife in my daughters virgina when she was 3. It was witnessed by her older siblings, 4 year old sister and 7 year old brother. (I was at a Stubbenville retreat with my older daugther) He as had custody for the last 8 years, I have not seen my girls in over two years. When mommy and daddy stand to lose their only son, (only male born in family line) and a business to boot, with the exposure of what their son did to their granddaughter……The lies and deframation of my character are unbelieveable! Abby is now 13 and hopefully more then willing to tell the truth. Her number is 616-887-9527!! Grandparents and Dad have paid hundreds of thousands of $$ to to keep all of this quite. In conclusion, my friend, and a therapist (the same therapist my daughter openly disclosed what her dad did to her) for over 25 years, comments, when yours girls make their way back home to mom (thats me) yours girls will have to go through years of therapy just to undo the mental brainwashing!!! May there be enough calls and attempts to contact my Abby that it will make enough attention that someone will do the honest and lawfull thing of getting her and her sister out of there and to a safe place!!!! God Bless all who make an attempt. Let my Abby know that mom Loves her all the way to Jesus in Heaven and Back!!!
8. 

   Chuck
   

   23. Dec, 2009

   You know the saddest part about all of this…is that we site here blaming him or her or Daddy, or Mommy…lawyers make a good living off of the destruction of families. There are good people/parents and there are bad. But what makes the system operate the way it does is our corrupted legal system which knows that whether your’re male or female….there’s a good chance you’ll fight to see you kids. So what did lawyers/politicians create? They created a system which gives women unfail advantage in court over men. Why? Well I believe (and if you look how courts proceed it seems clear to me) that it’s set up this way to promote time in court which for an attorney/politician…that’s good money. It’s all a game that politicians, attorneys, judges have been playing with families for years and people just accept it now. Look at the system they created. First, lets agree that divorce is usually very difficult on the kids unless of course you need to remove the child from that environment. But in reality, the percentage of that are very low. Typically it’s the mother/father who need to work on things..but the kids end up suffering, and parents end up paying for it in legal fees but it’s never a satisfactory solution.

   So what have they set up…well, we have:
   No fault divorce: Now you don’t even need a reason to get a divorce…there’s easy money for some unethical attorney. Destroy a family that probably could have been saved and make good money doing it.

   States get Federal money for every person who enteres the Single Custodial Parent role: Lots of people don’t know this…but it all makes sense. Get as many people into the divorce machine as you can and crank up those Single Custodial Parent” numbers so that the state gets more federal money. That’s a win/win situation for the state and attorneys. The state gets the federal money but you as a father for instance don’t see that federal money….no no…you have to pay child support. So you are paying for your kids even thuogh you only see them a fraction of the time, while the state collects a check from uncle sam. Of course attorneys make out because they represent the fool who thinks he/she will get any justice in this legal system run by self serving politicians, lawyers, judges.

   Women put at an unfair advantage over men: This just sets men up so that if they want any justice..they’re going to have to pay $10,000 plus for it! Again, nice job if you’re an attorney.

   So how can it be fixed quickly? FIrst, divorce should never be promoted when young kids are involved. The court should do whatever it can to do what’s right for the kids. So first, judges need to start asking question when the papers are filed for divorce. If the couple has no children…easier case. If they have children…get to the root of the problem in the marriage. Who filed and why?

   Pass laws that put the parents on equal terms. When it comes to custody…it should be 50/50 by default and the parties can change that if they agree to.

   Get rid of alimony…this should have gone above…if a person files for divorce…they should have NO RIGHT to file for alimony unless there is a good reason. Instead, alimony is always there so again, you give someone a gun (out legal system), you give them a bullet (alimoney), and attornyes hope that with that power, someone will go after alimony or pull that trigger…why? Because they can.

   Oh lets not forget restraining orders. It’s way to easy to get a restraining order. Talk about Parental alienation. Again there is only ONE reason why you pass, or set up laws like this, to increase court time and money made in court.

   Some laws like the 50/50 custody could be easily put in place but by doing that…people won’t have anything to go to court to fight over and pay attorneys fees.

   You get what you subsidize….if you want people to go to court, then you simply give unfair advantage to a different group. You “subsidize” them so that in order to fight them in court, you have to pay. They do too…but the point is, they have an unfair advantage and were given things that they should not have been given without some level of investigation….and again, there is no investigation unless you go to trial….which again, costs thousands. It’s quite I nice little system they’ve created. Totally unfair and people have come to accept it….that is, unless they get sucked into it themselves.
9. 

   Jess
   

   28. Dec, 2009

   Their are also sick mothers, let me tell you it goes both ways.

   My boyfriend’s ex doesn’t let him see the kids, or speak to them for that matter for weeks at a time. Unfortunately, they are not legally separated or divorced. My boyfriend doesn’t want to hurt the kids, so he refuses to stick up for his rights.

   By the time we do get to spend time with his 2 children, they are so confused about things like their last name, to his son thinking he can be a girl. He is 3, and very vulnerable. How can you tell a child it is ok to be a girl.

   It’s sad.
10. 

    cindy crone
    

    20. Jan, 2010

    MY SON HAS BEEN ABUSED AND USED BY A WOMAN WHO HAS A SON, THAT THE PARENTS OF HERS HAVE KEPT THE MAN IN THE DARK FOR YEARS . THEN MY SON MARRIES HER, ANDLOVED HIM AS HIS OWN. FOR 4 YEARS. THEN HAD 2 CHILDREN WITH HER OF HIS OWN. WORKED HIS ASS OFF DROVE A CAR WITH NO HEAT, AND HER PARENTS WOULD NOT EVER LEAVE THEM ALONE SHE RAN TO THEM ALL THE TIME. I AM THE MOTHER OF MY SON. SHE WENT TO JAIL ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FOR 3 DAYS. HER MOTHER FOUGHT HIM SCRATCHED HIM WITH HIS DAUGHTER IN HIS ARMS. NOW SHE HAS TAKEN MY SON TO COURT 2 TIMES IN THE LAST YEAR. FOR MORE MONEY, AND NOW BACK TO COURT AGAIN ON A RESTRANING ORDER. WHY CAUSE HE CALLED AND ASKED HER TO PLEASE BRING CLOTHES THAT FIT THE KIDS. AND SHE FILED A DOMESTIC CHARGE THAT HE THREATENED HER. THOSE PARENTS OF HERS, ALSO TOOK MY GRANDCHILDREN AND HIDED THEM EVEN FROM THE LAW. FOR ALMOST 24 HOURS. UNTIL I SAID CALL THE FBI IN. THEN THE CHILDREN APPEARED. I HARDLY SEE MY BABIES. AND GUESS WHAT. I AM GOING TO FILE ALOT OF CHARGES. RIGHT BACK IN THEIR FACE. I MAY GO TO JAIL. BUT I BET I MAKE A SCENE IN THE COURT HOUSE ON JAN 26 2010 IN CANTON OHIO. MY SON LOVES HIS KIDS. AND ONE EXCELLENT FATHER. THAT THEY HAD THREATENED HIS LIFE. SHE GOES TO JAIL BUT MY SON PAYS THE PRICE. THIS IS NOT JUSTICE. SHE HAS ONE CHILD WITH NO FATHER. I GUESS SHE WANTS 2 MORE. HER MOM AND DAD BRAIN WASH THESE BABIES. AND I WILL TRY IN MY HEART SOUL AND LIFE. TO STOP IT. ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREATFUL. GOD BLESS THE LITTLE ANGELS THAT GOD GAVE US.