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The Human Manure Spreader

The Human Manure Spreader

The Human Manure Spreader is the man or woman who takes their bitterness and anger out on other human beings in the same way a manure spreader indiscriminately spreads its fecal matter.

These people sling their human “crapital” all over those in their lives, except for those whose rears they have to kiss lest they lose a job or something else very important to them. They have virtually no boundaries, physically or emotionally.

These people are narcissists and wreak havoc on those around them. They don’t listen, they’re extremely opinionated, they’re rude (no manners), talk about themselves nonstop, and don’t have a caring, nurturing bone in their body.

The dominant trait for the HMS is their critical nature— they cut people people down for sport. They get a thrill out of criticizing and demeaning others.

They are never wrong, and when their ego is threatened by any amount of criticism they will aim to destroy him or her. If you look up “ruthless” in the dictionary, there’s the HMS‘s picture right beside it.

Dealing with an HMS is impossible in most situations because he or she cannot negotiate or compromise. If they do, they strike a deal wherein they still benefit more than you. Compromising isn’t something that will happen, and this is because of their deep lacking of empathy. Having a heart and seeing the other person’s point of view is simply not something they have.

An HMS doesn’t know, and doesn’t care, how he or she comes across to others. If they did they would adjust their behaviors like most normal human beings do. So to deal with them put on your emotional armor, a teflon coat if you will, and don’t allow yourself to be brought down to their juvenile level. They are emotionally stunted, so knowing this should help you realize you can’t ever change them or win them over.

Mental child abuse example

[Warning: graphic language in below video] Here is a very sad audio clip of an angry father going on a yelling tirade against his kids. This was one of the few times a child is able to document their own Dad’s abuse. To anyone that says emotional or mental abuse isn’t as damaging as physical child abuse, I would simply ask them to listen to this:

Children who are regularly in therapy are usually abused

I got some insight from a Child Protective Services worker here in Texas the other day. She told me that kids and teenagers that are regularly in counseling or therapy usually have one or more parents that are abusive. Most of the time, kids that are in counseling are there due to bad parenting of some sort (there are exceptions, of course).

I believe that kids placed into counseling regularly are the product of parents that are passing along their own issues. Emotionally healthy parents generally don’t have kids who are so out of alignment that they need regular, ongoing professional therapy. Kids who are exceptionally difficult even with outstanding parents need correction and adjustment from their parents, not from an outsider who is at a complete disadvantage.

I look at my own situation: my son is placed into counseling every month at least once with a psychologist (who unnecessarily told my son about my book on mental child abuse. Causing yet more confusion to my son) by his mother, and my son is with his mother the vast majority of the time. His issues are his mother’s. One of my son’s “issues” is the fact that I wasn’t there at his birth.” Yes, a matter where he wasn’t even consciously aware, is an issue 12 years later. It’s deplorable. When I ask Mom why he’s in counseling she only will say “He won’t tell me; he just says he wants someone to talk to.”

“Abusive parents frequently will use counseling as a deflective shield to what they’re doing to their own child; it’s a cover for their own abuse. For who would question a parent who’s seemingly trying to “help” their child with counseling?” –

The sad irony is, the people that should be in counseling aren’t, while the innocent children are. It’s almost as if the parents are conditioning their child to get used to their abusive behaviors…



Narcissistic mother, narcissistic father – here are their traits

Narcissistic mothers and fathers have most of the following traits. How many apply to your situation?

Narcissistic parents are… self-absorbed, authoritarian, know-it-alls, negative, highly critical of others, yellers, secretive, possessively close to the child, cunning, manipulative, exploitive, stingy, pathological liars, envious and competitive, play favorites (and it’s a rotating favorite list), deaf to other’s opinions, bad listeners, braggers and exaggerators, ungrateful, boundary-less, inept at basic manners, lacking a sense of humor (especially at themselves), feel superior to all others, and are masters in making others feel guilty.


Educational Child Abuse

Educational child abuseEducational Child Abuse is the harm done to a child by a parent or caretaker who deliberately keeps the child out of school, taking them out repeatedly early, or otherwise preventing a healthy child from being in school consistently.

Although this blog deals extensively with mental child abuse, I thought I’d expose a growing problem that’s also abusive to innocent children.

The motivation is usually a very selfish one of the parent: they’re either too emotionally dependent on the child so they keep them at home, or they are too lazy to ensure that  the child is in school on time every day.

Parents that are capable of educational child abuse are usually abusive in other manners as well. So if a child is being educationally abused, there’s a high likelihood that the child is also being mentally, sexually, medically, or physically abused.

An interesting phenomenon is that of child abuse when the child is being home schooled. There is a serious argument to be made that children are more susceptible to being abused when they are yanked out of school and placed into home schooling. With home schooling, the signs of any form of abuse can very easily be hidden from the public. After all, many of the reports of abuse to authorities are made by schools across America.

Remember Andrea Yates, the mother who drowned her five children in Texas? Not that there’s a defined connection, but her children were home schooled…

Educational child abuse is not yet well documented as a form of “child abuse,” but it’s clearly takes place in too many households and needs to be exposed.