Here’s a stellar example of two divorced parents handling an exchange. Parents have an obligation to act this way.
The following is a clip from the Dennis Prager Radio Show. Dennis talks about parental alienation, and plays for his views a powerful exchange between a woman and her daughter (from the TV show Desperate Housewives).
The daughter doesn’t want to see her Dad as she’s being dropped off. However, her mother gets composed and gives an excellent example of how to talk to your child about an ex-spouse– even one she is angry at.
Dennis Prager says after the clip:
Unfortunately, tragically, sadly, it is not what a lot of Moms say to their sons or daughters if they’re angry about a divorce.”
(He does mention that fathers alienate children as well, but that he’s referring to this specific dialogue in the film)
The most gripping part of the exchange occurs after the car door closes. The daughter runs towards her Dad…
This is a testament to the power of a parent’s words to their children. If a parent expresses encouragement about seeing the other parent, children naturally follow this lead (even if there has been some badmouthing up to that point).
If every parent acted this way at exchanges, there would be a whole lot less abused children in the country.