Dr. Phil’s show on Brainwashing of Children
Posted on 10. Jun, 2009 by admin.
A few months ago I watched with interest an episode of Dr. Phil that dealt with the topic of brainwashing of children by a parent. Dr. Phil summarized the bad parental behavior that hurts children, and I jotted down the main points he made. Here they are: Using child as pawn Talking bad about the other [...]
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The Post-Visitation “Shakedown”
Posted on 03. May, 2009 by admin.
When your child is dropped off with your ex following your weekend or other multi-day visitation, a brainwashing parent will usually give your kid(s) a post-visitation “shakedown”. The goal of the parent doing this is to extract all the details, looking for those that put the other parent in bad light. The poor child knows [...]
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Brainwashing Tool #2: Using the child as a spy
Posted on 31. Mar, 2009 by admin.
Parents who are indoctrinating their children to spite the ex will also enlist the child to become a surrogate spy. This can range from simple information about the ex’s new girlfriend, all the details of every breakfast and dinner (“what did you eat? What restaurant did he take you to?”) to doing complete hard drive [...]
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When your ex places your child into counseling after every visit
Posted on 01. Mar, 2009 by admin.
I’m experiencing in my case severe programming in a desperate attempt to sever my son’s relationship with me. One of the things my son’s mother does is place him into counseling after every father-son time we have. That’s right, usually the very next Monday or Tuesday after the Sunday evening exchange he is placed into [...]
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Brainwashing technique #4: Transferring hurt feelings and frustrations onto a child
Posted on 07. Jan, 2009 by admin.
Brainwashing a child usually begins as frustrations, hurt, and contempt towards you by your ex. He or she feels betrayed, wronged, is quite bitter about the separation or divorce, and believes the child needs to know about these strong feelings. Here, emotion trumps logic and good parenting. A parent makes a decision to bring the [...]
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Scorched Earth Alienation
Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin.
Scorched Earth Alienation (n) – intentionally trying to destroy a child’s relations with a parent and associated family tree. There are different levels of brainwashing children, the most extreme of which is Scorched Earth Alienation. When the ex tries to poison the relationship with not only the other parent but with that parent’s sisters, brothers, [...]
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“Only 40 hours ’til I see you”
Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin.
Parents who view visitation with the other parent as something that’s a necessary evil often count down not only the days in front of their child, but hours too. If a parent says to the child “Honey, I miss you so much, only 40 hours until I see you,” what is that telling them? First, [...]
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How to start a blog on your child’s life
Posted on 13. Dec, 2008 by admin.
Today’s technology offers a great way to document your child’s life. Especially so when you’re on the receiving end of parent-child alienation attempts. Here’s all you need to do to easily document your child’s life: 1. Take plenty of photos, and upload them to a site like www.flickr.com or www.smugmug.com 2. Take plenty of videos [...]
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If ex can’t come, then (your child) can’t come, either
Posted on 13. Dec, 2008 by admin.
There will be situations when your ex will demand that he/she be allowed to appear at an event, or else the child won’t be allowed to come. Last week my nephew was prevented from accepting a trophy at an awards banquet simply because his Dad wasn’t allowed to attend (Dad is involved in a highly [...]
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Brainwashing Tool #7: Tell them what they’re missing at home
Posted on 18. Oct, 2008 by admin.
I’ve experienced this now several times, so it’s time to expose it to other parents. When your child is with you but talking on the phone to their other parent, one tool the parent uses to lessen the value of your child’s visitation at your home is to tell them great stuff that awaits them [...]
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