Parental alienation: Grieving the loss of a child who’s still alive


Parental alienation is a vicious form of child abuse.

If you think about the parents that have been turned against their own child or children, many of them are essentially grieving over the loss of a child who’s still alive.

Let’s be honest, many of these alienators wish you were dead. That’s the reality. By removing you from the child’s life, the children’s life, what difference is it– there’s no funeral, but you are away from them and if it was up to them there would be no father or mother for this child or children.

It’s really sick.

Let’s be honest, the parents that go full bore in a campaign of alienation, are mentally ill. Let’s call it for what it is. There’s something wrong with them, morally speaking. Their moral compass is broken. What parent, even in the midst of a break-up, wants to see that child suffer?

The alienator does.

It’s a real sick and twisted form of child abuse.

About John

John Thomas Steinbeck is a parental alienation consultant. He and his son's relationship was under attack in a deplorable campaign of parental alienation. In this blog, John shares his insights, techniques, and tools in combating emotional child abuse. He did it-- today his son's love has been restored-- and you can too!
  • Ann Marie Escamilla

    Your description of having your child tortured by PAS is dead-on; I have been mourning my daughter since she was an infant …. I cannot thank you, enough, for creating this site, and publishing the e-book. My daughter is, just, 4 years of age-the brainwashing of her has been done he “grandparents”(my parents)…She began showing signs of PAS over one year ago; in the space of the last 8 months, during which I, her 48-year-old mother, have been prevented from being with her, at all, my happy, healthy, little baby has become a ghost(during this time she has been “cared for” by, primarily, the instigator of the brainwashing, my 82-year-old sociopathic father(who just happens to be a retired M.D.) It is too painful to write any more, at present. To be legally-prevented from to saving your own child from this Hell, even when they beg you to “get me out of here,” kills both a mother and child, literally and figuratively….

  • Ann Marie Escamilla

    You are correct-the alienator(s) would rather have you dead…. I can’t believe how exactly your verbiage, in that brief, video-testimony on this matter, has mirrored my own.

  • These alienators, at the severe end, are pretty much all the same…

  • Jernae West

    My mother has been brainwashing my daughter against me for many years. My mother was very limited because my daughter was a minor and she lived with me. But now that my daughter has recently turned 18 years old, she has brainwashed my daughter to move in with her and alienate me. My daughter and I were extremely close and I didn’t think this could even happen. But now, she has to sneak to call me. She has even been scolded by my parents when they found out that she snuck to the hospital to visit me. My mom had CPS seperate my niece from her mom and convinced the doctors that my niece needed to be on multiple psychological medications. She even had my niece calling her mom and my dad, dad – instead of grandma and grandpa. The courts told my mom that they believe she was manipulating my niece’s mind. They even threatened to charge her, but was never charged. I’m seeking tips on how to reverse brainwashing. Please email me at: