Brainwashing Children

Parental Alienation Syndrome to be highlighted on ABC’s 20/20

Posted on 14. Dec, 2009 by admin.

ABC News’ show 20/20 will be featuring a segment this Friday, with a brief appearance by Dr. Richard Warshak, the foremost author and psychologist on parental alienation syndrome, aka “children brainwashed to hate a parent.”
From Dr. Warshak’s site,
I expect this show to have a major impact in educating the public about the suffering of children [...]

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Brainwashing children: The four levels of abuse

Posted on 08. Nov, 2009 by admin.

Brainwashing children to despise a parent falls into one of four categories of severity:

Glancing insult
Direct attack
Relationship assault
Relationship-ending coaching

Glancing insult
The glancing insult, also called a “drive-by put down,” is a derogatory remark said to the child about a parent. These are off-the-cuff remarks whose purpose is to instill doubt and negative opinions about the target [...]

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Other ways of describing the Brainwashing of Children

Posted on 26. Jun, 2009 by admin.

Teaching hate
Attack on the child’s soul
Parental alienation
Sabotaging the parent-child bond
Aligning the child against the parent
Poisoning the child’s mind
Inducing false hatred
Crushing/killing the child’s spirit
Relationship is under attack
Erasing or rewriting the child’s good memories
Bashing the parent
Denying a loving relationship
Programming
Mental torture/torment
Badmouthing the parent
Campaign to destroy the parent-child relationship
Mental or psychological child abuse
Emotional child abuse
Denying the child the love [...]

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Dr. Phil’s show on Brainwashing of Children

Posted on 10. Jun, 2009 by admin.

A few months ago I watched with interest an episode of Dr. Phil that dealt with the topic of brainwashing of children by a parent. Dr. Phil summarized the bad parental behavior that hurts children, and I jotted down the main points he made. Here they are:

Using child as pawn
Talking bad about the other parent
Using child [...]

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The Post-Visitation “Shakedown”

Posted on 03. May, 2009 by admin.

When your child is dropped off with your ex following your weekend or other multi-day visitation, a brainwashing parent will usually give your kid(s) a post-visitation “shakedown”.
The goal of the parent doing this is to extract all the details, looking for those that put the other parent in bad light.
The poor child knows the [...]

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Brainwashing Tool #2: Using the child as a spy

Posted on 31. Mar, 2009 by admin.

Parents who are indoctrinating their children to spite the ex will also enlist the child to become a surrogate spy. This can range from simple information about the ex’s new girlfriend, all the details of every breakfast and dinner (“what did you eat? What restaurant did he take you to?”) to doing complete hard [...]

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When your ex places your child into counseling after every visit

Posted on 01. Mar, 2009 by admin.

I’m experiencing in my case severe programming in a desperate attempt to sever my son’s relationship with me. One of the things my son’s mother does is place him into counseling after every father-son time we have. That’s right, usually the very next Monday or Tuesday after the Sunday evening exchange he is placed into [...]

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Brainwashing technique #4: Transferring hurt feelings and frustrations onto a child

Posted on 07. Jan, 2009 by admin.

Brainwashing a child usually begins as frustrations, hurt, and contempt towards you by your ex. He or she feels betrayed, wronged, is quite bitter about the separation or divorce, and believes the child needs to know about these strong feelings.

Here, emotion trumps logic and good parenting. A parent makes a decision to bring the child [...]

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Scorched Earth Alienation

Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin.

Scorched Earth Alienation (n) – intentionally trying to destroy a child’s relations with a parent and associated family tree.
There are different levels of brainwashing children, the most extreme of which is Scorched Earth Alienation.
When the ex tries to poison the relationship with not only the other parent but with that parent’s sisters, brothers, father– the [...]

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“Only 40 hours ’til I see you”

Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin.

Parents who view visitation with the other parent as something that’s a necessary evil often count down not only the days in front of their child, but hours too.
If a parent says to the child “Honey, I miss you so much, only 40 hours until I see you,” what is that telling them?
First, it tells [...]

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