Brainwashing Children

Scorched Earth Alienation

Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin.

Scorched Earth Alienation (n) – intentionally trying to destroy a child’s relations with a parent and associated family tree.
There are different levels of brainwashing children, the most extreme of which is Scorched Earth Alienation.
When the ex tries to poison the relationship with not only the other parent but with that parent’s sisters, brothers, father– the [...]

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If ex can’t come, then (your child) can’t come, either

Posted on 13. Dec, 2008 by admin.

There will be situations when your ex will demand that he/she be allowed to appear at an event, or else the child won’t be allowed to come.
Last week my nephew was prevented from accepting a trophy at an awards banquet simply because his Dad wasn’t allowed to attend (Dad is involved in a highly toxic [...]

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Brainwashing Tool #3: No pics of you anywhere

Posted on 01. Oct, 2008 by admin.

Your ex has many tools at his or her disposal to push you away from and out of your child’s life.
One of the small but telling ways is to deny any pictures of you in your kid’s room at your ex’s. Why would they do this?
Simple. “Out of sight; out of mind.”
Your ex is [...]

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Brainwashing Tool #8: The telephone

Posted on 23. Sep, 2008 by admin.

When you have your kid for your visitation time, oftentimes the other parent knows he/she has only one way of brainwashing your kid during those days. The tool used?

The telephone/cellphone.
The alienating parent will try one or several of the following tactics:
1. Keep the child on the phone for a long time
2. Inquire in a negative [...]

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“Don’t make me choose!” – the universal cry of children

Posted on 20. Sep, 2008 by admin.

Inside a child’s mind, when he or she faces brainwashing from a parent, the feeling they get is one of:
Please don’t make me choose!
Children know their parents have faults and aren’t perfect. They don’t hold one parent up to the other and say to themselves “this parent is better, so I like them better.” Rather, [...]

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How taking “ownership” of a child hurts them

Posted on 14. Sep, 2008 by admin.

All parents feel a bond to their child. But a good percentage of parents take this bond to a new level, approaching ownership. They feel like that child belongs to them, while the ex is relegated to a legally-obligated role in the child’s life.

This is indicative of a very needy parent, for starters. A strong [...]

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