Brainwashing Children

The Post-Visitation “Shakedown”

Posted on 03. May, 2009 by admin.

When your child is dropped off with your ex following your weekend or other multi-day visitation, a brainwashing parent will usually give your kid(s) a post-visitation “shakedown”.
The goal of the parent doing this is to extract all the details, looking for those that put the other parent in bad light.
The poor child knows the [...]

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When your ex places your child into counseling after every visit

Posted on 01. Mar, 2009 by admin.

I’m experiencing in my case severe programming in a desperate attempt to sever my son’s relationship with me. One of the things my son’s mother does is place him into counseling after every father-son time we have. That’s right, usually the very next Monday or Tuesday after the Sunday evening exchange he is placed into [...]

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“Only 40 hours ’til I see you”

Posted on 25. Dec, 2008 by admin.

Parents who view visitation with the other parent as something that’s a necessary evil often count down not only the days in front of their child, but hours too.
If a parent says to the child “Honey, I miss you so much, only 40 hours until I see you,” what is that telling them?
First, it tells [...]

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If ex can’t come, then (your child) can’t come, either

Posted on 13. Dec, 2008 by admin.

There will be situations when your ex will demand that he/she be allowed to appear at an event, or else the child won’t be allowed to come.
Last week my nephew was prevented from accepting a trophy at an awards banquet simply because his Dad wasn’t allowed to attend (Dad is involved in a highly toxic [...]

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Brainwashing Tool #7: Tell them what they’re missing at home

Posted on 18. Oct, 2008 by admin.

I’ve experienced this now several times, so it’s time to expose it to other parents.
When your child is with you but talking on the phone to their other parent, one tool the parent uses to lessen the value of your child’s visitation at your home is to tell them great stuff that awaits them back [...]

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Top 7 ways for live-away parents to stay in contact with child

Posted on 01. Oct, 2008 by admin.

In today’s computer age, there are some very cool, innovative ways to stay in contact with your child who’s living with your ex. So when you can’t be there in person, here is a quick rundown of the top 7:
1. Telephone/cellphone (directly speaking to child)
2. Telephone/cellphone (leaving a nice message when unable to speak to [...]

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Brainwashing Tool #8: The telephone

Posted on 23. Sep, 2008 by admin.

When you have your kid for your visitation time, oftentimes the other parent knows he/she has only one way of brainwashing your kid during those days. The tool used?

The telephone/cellphone.
The alienating parent will try one or several of the following tactics:
1. Keep the child on the phone for a long time
2. Inquire in a negative [...]

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