The 5 steps to begin reversing alienation

About John

John Thomas Steinbeck is a parental alienation consultant. He and his son's relationship was under attack in a deplorable campaign of parental alienation. In this blog, John shares his insights, techniques, and tools in combating emotional child abuse. He did it-- today his son's love has been restored-- and you can too!
  • Schalk Jacobs

    So all is fine to max your time John and all valid suggestions – after my divorce 10 years ago i only came to see my daughter after a court case and no less than 7 pschycolgists to documednt the parental alianation, i started seeing my daugher to a point where she had such a great time she sometimes wanted more time. I started dating 15months ago and introduced my daughter to my girlfriend. Already on the way to go meet her my daughter commented she does not want meet this women because she is poison – they met her and her 2 daughters and had a great time ! Ever since then she has become more and more distant to the point know where she does not want to visit or see me and hardly speaks to me and does not call me dad any more or say i love you too on the phone. My court order visitation does not help as she refuses to come with me when i go to pick her up – her mother simply states i can take her if i want to and openly syas to her that she (mother) will never force her to do anything she does not want to and it is her (my daughters) decison if she wants to go with me. Many people has told me i must just insist on her coming with me which i tried once, never again – she was screaming crying and threw tantrums and wouldnt talk to me for weeks after. So do i just keep going to her school events and speak to her once on the phone every couple of weeks – i phone about 2-3 times a week but there is always an excuse why she cant talk to me or do i gvo the legal way and fight this – i fear going legal and a child pschygologist again will just make the mother more determined to undermine me ? So do i just stand back and be patient? This is heartbraking and frustrating as i know what good times we had and the only thing that changed is that i got a girlfriend whom my daughter spend time with maybe 5 times and had a great time every time!!!

  • clearvoice

    Here is a twist , what about daughter-in-laws who play the same alienation games with your son against you?

    What can you do in that situation when maybe you’ve shown some of the same narcissistic traits that perhaps sparked arguments initially, but now realizing your faults you repent, but it’s to late the insecurity of the daughter-in-law narcissist wins as she is able to isolate and control your son and convince him to turn against you?

    How do you even begin to repair that?