The Human Manure Spreader

The Human Manure Spreader

The Human Manure Spreader is the man or woman who takes their bitterness and anger out on other human beings in the same way a manure spreader indiscriminately spreads its fecal matter.

These people sling their human “crapital” all over those in their lives, except for those whose rears they have to kiss lest they lose a job or something else very important to them. They have virtually no boundaries, physically or emotionally.

These people are narcissists and wreak havoc on those around them. They don’t listen, they’re extremely opinionated, they’re rude (no manners), talk about themselves nonstop, and don’t have a caring, nurturing bone in their body.

The dominant trait for the HMS is their critical nature— they cut people people down for sport. They get a thrill out of criticizing and demeaning others.

They are never wrong, and when their ego is threatened by any amount of criticism they will aim to destroy him or her. If you look up “ruthless” in the dictionary, there’s the HMS‘s picture right beside it.

Dealing with an HMS is impossible in most situations because he or she cannot negotiate or compromise. If they do, they strike a deal wherein they still benefit more than you. Compromising isn’t something that will happen, and this is because of their deep lacking of empathy. Having a heart and seeing the other person’s point of view is simply not something they have.

An HMS doesn’t know, and doesn’t care, how he or she comes across to others. If they did they would adjust their behaviors like most normal human beings do. So to deal with them put on your emotional armor, a teflon coat if you will, and don’t allow yourself to be brought down to their juvenile level. They are emotionally stunted, so knowing this should help you realize you can’t ever change them or win them over.

About John

John Thomas Steinbeck is a parental alienation consultant. He and his son's relationship was under attack in a deplorable campaign of parental alienation. In this blog, John shares his insights, techniques, and tools in combating emotional child abuse. He did it-- today his son's love has been restored-- and you can too!
  • Savannah Emler

    John~

    Your message is so encouraging. I cannot wait to read your book. My fiancé is going through an all too similar struggle with his son. Luckily, his son is 2 and we are hoping to address the PAS before it impacts his son too deeply. Hopefully, we can use your book to accomplish this goal.

    Thank you for your encouraging words and insight.

    Savannah
    http://justicefordaddyandjaiden.blogspot.com/

  • Lori

    Wow this is so spot on about my ex!! I am going to remember this advice when dealing with him again as it’s so HELPFUL. Thank you