What is Parental Alienation Syndrome?

About John

John Thomas Steinbeck is a parental alienation consultant. He and his son's relationship was under attack in a deplorable campaign of parental alienation. In this blog, John shares his insights, techniques, and tools in combating emotional child abuse. He did it-- today his son's love has been restored-- and you can too!
  • Some really great compliments to this article can be found on http://hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/

    More specifically, it can be found under: http://hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/parental_alienation.asp

    And, as a pseudo remedy maker- and way to begin structuring your court cases- have a look at this page:
    http://hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/intervention.asp

    At the top, there is a PAS evaluation form. Do the evaluation.
    Print it up.
    Keep it with your journal regarding custody and time with your child- make references to anything and everything in the guide.
    After a short peroid of time, you will begin to have a solid outline for a reasonable change for parentage with the courts.

    Things to remember: it takes TIME to gather evidence. Work with family law centers if you don’t have an attorney.
    You will get your kids back if you keep track of every little detail possible.

    (Thanks John for this website. I’m not trying to highjack it all- I’m just going through the process of trying to get my son back as I’ve not seen him in two years.)

  • Anna Elise

    I am looking to see if anyone can help us combat parental alienation. We spent 4 years in court, which did nothing. The boys are now 14, 14 & 16. The 16 year old is doing great, but the two younger are not. Do we try counseling? Therapy? An intervention? If we do therapy or counseling, can you point us to a good one in Colorado Springs CO? Any advice would be great. Thank you!

  • Alec Theora

    How could you be hijacking this site? It seems John is a no show on looking at this page and answering any desperate questions at all. I know he’s an advocate and a writer, I’m not disparaging him. Maybe this site is more directed at buying the book, or to lightly inform? I don’t know of any place on the internet where you can find really solid, timely and deep support for your daily struggle with being alienated. It seems most sites are trying to sell something whether it’s a book or a system or online sessions. No one wants to give too much for free. Battered women have free assistance, there are lawyers galore available for free council if you’re a woman who is deemed to be in danger. Alienated parents, sorry to say, but it’s true, are mostly fathers statistically speaking, are out there suffering with little to no free support, but are welcome to spend their entire life savings looking for the same. I appreciate everyone that is trying to bring awareness to this horror. The question is, how do I make it through this day, this agonizing night? How do I stop the horror of being shut out, despised, erased by my child? How do I carry on day after day, each one another rejection, and knowing I missed all the years of the growth and change in my precious child’s life, knowing they’ve suffered so badly too with this psychological abuse gone unchecked, and when all I ever wanted was to help and guide and love my child with all my heart and soul? I heard John on the Dennis Prager show. With his giant bully pulpit Dennis gave our plight some much needed exposure. Okay, we got exposure again… now what?

  • Debbie Martin

    I think if John came on here and tried to answer and help all the people who would need him, he himself would have no time to move on, enjoy life and spend time with his children.. He is obviously passionate about helping people and has written this blog and wrote a book, which is not much more than a coffee. Counsellors charge £50 an hour. While being abused myself I helped one person to get out of a abusive situation to the point where I had to go to court and what did she do, stitched me up in court so that it appeared that it was all my fault so the anger from him was directed at me. It is impossible for John to help just one person on an individual basis and therefore writing a book is a really good way for him to help a lot of people. Just thought it was a bit sad that he was being accused of trying to make money out of people…well that’s just my opinion

  • Debbie Martin

    I have received help over many years from Barnardos, I have noticed that the more people go on shows and publicise and talk about this the more the police, social services etc understand and I have noticed a big change… I understand that does not help your pain and frustration now !!! and have felt the desperation you feel. It has taken time but my daughter now sees the lies and she lives with me, sadly my son still does not, he is 18 now and I have just lost 5 years of his life. I ame on here wondering how I explain to him that he is being brainwashed and found this blog. I have to say that I have been on all the courses women are offered and understand that courses for men are few and far between… This blog has just really helped me … and I think if you follow the advice and buy the book, you will learn to accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can and one day your children will find you – John talks about finding a hobby, many of us turn to drink to numb out the pain, so good that when our children do come back that we are someone they want to know … I have found counselling and holistic therapies helpful in calming down and making a bad situation feel better than it did – hope that helps a bit